It is pretty often people consider dating to be the same as sexual relationships. Divorced people more often think about sexual freedom as most possible scenario of starting a new life after divorce. Bitterness of the situation they just went through, calls for some "reward" and the easiest way is being considered is free sexual behavior.

The circumstances we’re talking about require a closer look. People who just divorced have experienced many unpleasant moments that go with almost every divorce. Things like humiliation, lack of positive emotions, reduced self-esteem, and broken hopes certainly come to mind when we start talking about divorce.

Starting a new life after divorce people choose from variety of ways. The two most popular scenarios are the most dangerous at the same time. You may not admit it but reality shows the following: first scenario is to condemn yourself, throttle all your feelings and put yourself into a deadly corner. In other words, to accuse yourself for everything that has happened in your life and going down to self-destruction.

Second way or scenario varies from the first one but having closer look appears to be the same. Yes, this second scenario is what we mentioned above; it is "sexual freedom."

One can ask about the definition of freedom. Needless to say there are million of them. However, taking into account what wise people have said about it, we came to conclusion that being responsible for own actions and to foresee their consequences, is pretty close to what people calls freedom. All of us think of freedom as how to do and how much to do. Can you imagine freedom as "not doing" something? Not to do things that you certainly know will bring you undesired fruit? Not doing something you do know will bring bad results? Not to do things that will harm another person for sure?

Desire to escape, to run away from reality and to ignore negative emotions inside often does stand behind sexual freedom. Sadly, the proven by psychologists fact is that nobody can run away far enough, everybody comes back with more difficult problems not even realizing where they’ve been. Escaping from reality never brings positive results, explain psychologists, sexual freedom doesn’t fill in internal gap, doesn’t compensate lack of feelings.

Some people continue to change partners until they loose a sense of why and what they are doing. People start to loose sense why they are doing that. And if we look inside of a person - there will be the same emptiness they experienced right after their divorce.

No one can preach you what to do with your life and how to behave. One thing that seems to be right, calm down, sit and talk. Have a wonderful conversation with yourself and consider several things. First, what do I want from my future? Do I want just to be alone, to practice sexual freedom and be alone, or do I want somebody next to me warming up my soul not the flesh only?

You may say that it would be too easy to find all the answers right away. Of course, it is not, especially after everything you’ve experienced from your divorce. But in the depth of the heart everybody knows those answers. Sometimes it is enough just not to lie to yourself.

Be critical and realizing the consequences of the things you do, or intend to do, helps you avoid unpleasant things and enjoy the real freedom of being the master of your future.