What we believe we ultimately conceive in our lives...changing belief systems is an important part of NLP.
So often we think about beliefs as if they were tangible, real things, when they are actually nothing more than hunches or feelings of certainty about something or someone and they are usually nothing more than generalisations about the past.
When you take a look around, what do you see? Do you see a world of constancy or a world of ever unfolding change? Of course the answer is obvious and yet when you take a close look at people, what do you see?
On first inspection it would be reasonable to assume that people remain very much the same, that nothing ever really changes. Whilst that is the way that many would perhaps prefer it to be, it is not the case at all, for with each new experience, each ‘new’ thought and each new day, we evolve and hopefully grow. At the very least, we certainly do change with time.
Interestingly, there is only one constant in the entire universe and that is change. Change is the one thing that most people avoid and fight against with all their being. They somehow fear or are highly suspicious of change and avoid it, generally speaking, wherever possible. But despite our inherent distaste for what we perceive it to bring, change affects us all, and it exists within all of us.
Our mind, like our body is changing all the time, but at a level that is not immediately obvious to the casual viewer. Our experiences and the meaning that we give to them shapes our thoughts about a whole myriad of issues, all of which are subtly inter-related and often inter-dependent. As each new experience takes place, our mind re-assesses, re-evaluates and reshapes our mental map of the world in which we live, and with it, our well-being and our physical health affects our thinking about ourselves and what the process of life is all about.
It is here that our mind, body and spirit meet and become mixed in the melting pot that is our beliefs - those elements that create some feelings of certainty about life, about the whole process, order and sequence of that experience we call being, all fed to us through the miracle of consciousness. Beliefs are fundamental in creating who and what we are, for they affect what we think, feel, do and ultimately, the outcomes that we create in our lives. If, as we have seen, our perceptions of reality are filtered and manipulated internally, then so too are many of our beliefs, which all come from our personal frame of reference of life, as we believe it to be and mean. Is it therefore possible that some, if not many, of our own beliefs are not necessarily accurate, and as such they may not serve us particularly well in having, being and achieving all that we want from life?
The process of positive and desired change comes about through, amongst other things, changes in our beliefs and internal experiences of life - the mental associations that we hold on to and which ultimately create the behavioural and emotional programmes that we run internally from day to day. The key lies not in making judgements about what is right or wrong in our beliefs, thinking or behaviour, but in asking what is useful, desirable and self-empowering!
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