When you realize that your marriage life is on the edge and you really have to do something about it fast if you donít want to lose everything, you should assess the situation calmly and learn how to stop divorce now. You might have had that big fight and your spouse may has thought about breaking up, but donít worry. Regardless that some relationships are beyond repair, most of them are still salvageable.
The first thing to do is quit reacting and start acting. What I mean by reacting is allow the atmosphere of the ínear divorceí situation affect you. This can be dangerous since in your fear of getting left out, you start to get negative emotion, seeking for your partner mistakes and quarrelling over small matters, being overly devensive, and so forth. Trust me about this: if there is any person who is able to ruin everything and changing "stop divorce now" to "being divorced now", the person is none other than YOU.
Yes, you have the control over your own marriage life no matter if you are aware of it or not. You may say "but it is her/his fault. He/she is disrespect me, constantly believes that he/she is right, and never listen to what I have to say". That could be true, but if you still love him/her enough to keep your relationship, you need to do something about it. Note that getting back at your lover by doing exactly the same disrespectful actions will only allow you to receive the divorce paper sooner.
If you want to stop divorce now and have joyful marriage life, you must figure out how to answer your spouse unsympathetic actions. His/her actions can only hurt you if you allow it. Be able to assume responsibility on how you feel and act the way you want to feel.
Additionally, it's not impossible that the problem comes from yourself. Do you possess a lot of expectation from your marriage life? Do you respect your spouse views and ideas even though he/she is not as bright as you? Do you possess low self esteem and blame your spouse for it? A marriage should be an equal relationship where there is absolutely no party higher than the other no matter who pays off the expenses and who stays at home. Do you have tried hard enough to create such relationship?
Either way, if you want to stop divorce now, youíll need to act quick. You must CHANGE. This is the only choice when the loves is almost vanished and you want to reignite it. Love your spouse and be a lovable person. Sounds simple? It is, but if you are on the edge of a divorce now, doing this is going to be hard.
Donít be discouraged though. You canít reignite the dead sparks over night, so do it bit by bit. Act more lovingly; listen to your spouse, compliment him/her and value her views over things. Show him/her how much you love, respect, admire, and trust him/her. By showing him/her, I imply both physically and verbally; just because youíve married, you cannot assume that he/she can read your mind.
"Can I stop the divorce when I am the only one who want to stay together?". Regardless of whether you recognize it or not, married couple grows together as the years passed. Think it over. You must possess one or two new behaviors after you got married that similar to your partner behaviors. You might have copied his/her way of saying some things and he/she adopts your way to deal with a certain circumstance.
The point is your behaviors AFFECT your spouse whether he/she wants it or not. If you act as a person who value his/her marriage, your spouse will start doing the same thing. If you start to act more lovingly and respect your spouse more, he/she will too. Don't waste time pondering about what already happened. From now on, show how much you value the relationship and make him/her do the same too.