Most guys, when they are on a date with a woman think: "how should I make her like me" Or "how should I impress her" or "am I good enough"?

If you really want to succeed at seducing women and having great connections, it is better to start loving yourself and accepting yourself for who you are. Why? Isn't seduction an "art" or "technique"? Actually, seduction is more like a state of being and awareness.

First of all when you TRY to impress you are being anything but impressive. In fact, you can ask any woman and she will tell you that it is extremely uncomfortable to be with a guy who is constantly trying to be something else than he is in order to impress her.

Let me tell you a secret about what women REALLY want! Women want NON JUDGMENTAL acceptance. They want a man who does not have to prove anything and accepts them (and himself) for who they are and presents himself without presumption. In fact, this is the way friends are to each other. Fiends don't want to be with each other in order to get something from one another (not in a direct sense in any case), but they are together because they are enjoying each other's company. When you let a woman know that she has nothing to loose when she has sex with you, especially not your friendship, she will loose her resistance (since there will be no reason for it) and will happily go to bed with you and share a pleasurable experience.

In order to get this mindset we have to understand what our current situation is. Ask yourself this question: "Am I talking to her because I secretly want to have sex with her or do I realize that she likes me and that I offer her the opportunity to feel safe and not be judged"? Ask yourself these questions and if the answer first version, you know that you still have some work to do.

hope this helps!