Right now, you probably think that you're in your toughest part of your life. She has leaved and there's nothing you can do about it! Well, you must know that many guys has experienced this too and they actually managed to get the love of their life back. Allow me to share the basic principles of how to get back your girl.

Cut Out The Desperate Stuff

You’re texting her like crazy, calling her late at night after the bar, and basically sobbing and pleading pathetically. And it is NOT working. It’s not working since you seem more like a stalker psychopath than that lovely, cool guy she likes.

The greatest blunder all guys make is that they act desperate. You might think your heartfelt pleading is going to show her how much you love her, but it merely makes you seem like a crazy fool. Stop text messaging her, calling her, or appearing randomly wherever she is.

The thing to do first and foremost is to accept that she’s gone. You’re will get her back, but it’s going to take some efforts, thinking and trust-building. You’ve got to show her that you’re sincere, and all this begging stuff does not do that. So, cut it out!

Keep Yourself Positive

My girl is gone and it’s the end of the world… what do you mean, "keep yourself positive!?" Alright, you’re in a dark place. Everything is bad all over. You’re wounded and you’re going crazy. But I have to tell you that there’s no way you’re going to get her back when you’re feeling like this.

I believe that no guy in the history of the human race has ever gotten his girl back by moping and being depressed. This doesn’t mean that you should deny your feelings. Go on and wallow in your misery. But what it means is that you must discover a way to turn your thinking positive to make a plan of action.

You’ve got a huge task before you. It’s a mission to get her back! Spend a while crying into your beer and listening to a few sad songs, and then head to the war room and start strategizing. You’re about to win her back by showing her that you’re really serious about making things work. Someday she’ll wonder what she was thinking, and you’ll both consider this as a little bump in the road. So cry a little, and then let’s get started. Remember that it’s usually darkest before the dawn.

Go Out And Socialize

Your buddies are there for you. We’ve all had a girl walk out on us, and every good friend knows that this is when they’re needed most. Whenever your friends call up and say "What’s up tonight", don’t even think about making an excuse and staying home. You’ll have plenty of time to be on your own and contemplate about things; your pals are trying to help.

Now, I just said that you should go out and socialize. What you don’t need to do is go on a month-long bender. Don’t party your tears away. The reason why you need to go out is that it keeps you positive and keeps things in perspective. It also provides you with a while away from yourself. I’ve known men that get dumped, embark on a massive party spree, and when they eventually sober up and get serious, their ex is with someone else.

Do not "play around" with other girls, even if you think that it just for fun. You may be tempted, being as you are "free" and "on the rebound". But remember that your mission is to get her back. This is not the time for fooling around. Doing that will only keep you from your original goal.

It's going to be all right. Lots of guys have been where you are right now. Think positive, get out there and do fun activities, and get your life back. You are just starting the process of how to get back your girl.