OK, so you say that you "want my wife back" that's great, because really life is to short to live being down in the dumps when you are without that love of your life, that you chose to marry! I know, there was a time when I said "I want my wife back" to...

Marriages break up for many different reasons, and the reasons for yours is something that only you can answer, however they are generally based around the same things, one being a lack of understanding of the opposite sex, although we feel the same, we do think very differently. Not understanding this does lead to rather significant communication breakdowns, and then disrespect...

The first rule of thumb to getting your wife back is all about working on yourself, if you are making contact with your wife, and trying to convince her to get back together, I recommend for now, you stop! The best thing is to create some thinking time, and also emotional repair time. Obviously when you go threw something like this, deep down we become emotional wrecks, it is time to honestly reflect on the real reasons why you broke up, and honestly work on the issues that effect you, taking notes really helps to get things in prospectus, don't rush as this is very important for when you attempt communication...

Secondly you need to concentrate on your positive well being, get yourself out and about having some fun, not so you can brag about it, but so you feel miles better. Go to the races, or a fishing trip or two, some hunting or whatever it is that gives you some excitement. Not only will this help you to feel miles better about life, it will show to others that you are positive and happy, and your wife will feel that you have moved on. Who knows once you have done this you may feel that you don't want your wife back, and you were just holding on to her love for some moral sanity...

However becoming a happy man again is of up most importance to achieving your goal! The next step is to focus on some effective communication, and realizing this huge factor for why we get this wrong. That is that there can be no blame in your breakup, but just reasons why, that need to be dealt with. The most dramatic communication fault that we have is using the word "you" instead of the word "I", in emotional debates. An example to this is, lets say you are having an argument and get angry, we begin a natural defense and will often say, "well you are making me damn angry", as apposed to saying simply, "I am becoming rather angry at the moment". Saying it differently does not have the same impact, as to when you sound like your blaming. When you are feeling that you are angry, you should immediately take time out, before you blow things out of proportion, and think of the reason for arguing...

Last but not least you need to be confident and positive, all I mean by this is to stop saying "I want my wife back" and start believing that you are going to get your wife back. What we think does have huge impact as to what we get!