Want to learn some of the specifics of ongoing conversation?
I have read several comments on blogs and forums for children, adolescents and adults with Asperger syndrome.
"What's the point of trying to be friends? It 's too difficult. The debate is meaningless, why even try?"
Conversation: The Building Block for Friendship Skills
Unfortunately, without a work plan guide and language, living in another country can be difficult. Let me give some points I have found through the research I did.
First, it's important to learn about empathy. Without empathy and competence perspectives, it will be very difficult to hold a conversation. And the conversation is one of the key elements that make relationships and emotional ties possible. The steps that you can use to teach a child with Asperger's syndrome (or learn as a child with Asperger syndrome) to form the highlighting of skills required to build friendships are the steps you learn as a teenager as an adult. Therefore, I think a person of any age can benefit from these measures. If you stop by my blog, Prospering With Aspergers, you can type the word "empathy" in the search box to find out more about this important conversation skill.
The next step in engaging in discussion is to understand non-verbal cues and verbal ranging discussions. Even before this transition takes place, I remember WHY 'carried out by the debate. For many people with Asperger's syndrome, the debate seems irrelevant, ritual confusion. It helps to remember that you want to learn the art of debate because the result can offer: a feeling of kinship and friendship with another human being.
Finally, this proposed hierarchy of knowledge and expertise with Michelle Garcia Winner, the author, Thinking of you, Thinking of me, a dynamic workbook designed to help children and young people (but applied to people of all ages). Work to master these skills and knowledge. I suggest you look at the group social skills training in conditions of autism therapist who will help you to practice these skills ona consistent basis.
Think about the other person:
a. If you've never met this person before:
I remember this person? What are your interests? Who is your family? Who are your friends?
b. If I have not met this person before, I must make some guesses about it:
What is the age of the person? What is sex? How is it or feel it? From what he said or how he or she looks, what would he be interested? The person seems interested in me? (Is it or is like me?)
c. Establish a physical presence with the other person.
Turn your back, chest, legs and head to another person / s.
If you go into a group with two other people are talking, observe your body to see if they change their physical presence to welcome the group.
Keep your body relaxed the legs at the top of the head
d. establish and maintain intermittent contact with eyes: Think of your eyes.
If you want to participate with another person, look to the person's face to create a communicative function.
Look at the person's face (cheeks, eyes, mouth, eyebrows) is trying to separate the emotional reactions.
If you are part of a group of more than two people, shakes his head and look to change the monitor speakers. This shows an active interest.
Monitor and eye contact with communication. Theyu is distracted or focused on people in a group? They seem to prefer a person with his eyes look?
e. take an interest in another person's post / comments
Make comments or ask questions about what the other person speaks to recognize you're in the presence of what they say.
Create a bridge between what they are interested in talking and what you are interested in speaking. Add your thoughts to connect their thoughts.
Follow your talk time - to avoid monopolizing the discussion.
I hope these tips help you as you work on learning the art of conversation.