When you expect something to happen and go your way, and it doesn't, it is so disappointing. You can become upset, stressed, and downright miserable, especially if you have been dealing with many other disappointments as well.
It may feel like you are never going to get over the hurdle and that lump in your throat will never go away but the truth is it will - with a little time. Normally a few hours or a day is all you need, and the bandage of time covers up your pain and hurt.
But is there a way to speed up the recovery process so you don't have to suffer through the pain and anger and instead just be able to skip to the relief and feeling that you can get through it? Yes, in fact there are a few ways.
1. As soon as you get the news hear it, accept it, and get busy doing something else.
If you accept it as fact and get busy doing something else with your time (besides dwelling on it) then you are consciously shifting your thoughts to something that doesn't involve the disappointment. Your mind may still work on the issue in the background, but it won't bring your whole body down with it because there are more pressing thoughts in front of it.
2. Do something that you know will not be a disappointment.
It's best to distract your mind with something that is working out for you already. Whether it is making a new friend, a new business opportunity, or just baking a cake that always turns out great - get busy with it. Focusing on something that is going to work out can help balance your mind with the negative and positive thoughts it is dealing with, and remove that stress that comes with disappointment.
3. Find someone who is dealing with more than you.
If you can find someone who has more on their plate then you, and you see that they are surviving and making it through okay, then you may be able to feel better about yourself and your disappointment. In fact, your struggles may become downright silly when you view it from this angle.
4. Be grateful for what you have in your life.
Instead of focusing on the disappointment try being grateful for what you do have in your life. The legs you use to walk or the clothes you have on your back, or the ability to read and learn. There is something to be grateful for and it may lift your spirits up and make you feel like you really are lucky in life - even without that thing or person you wanted.