Meditation is something I integrated in my life about a year ago. I try to meditate daily for an average of 15 minutes. This is how I see meditation that I got from reading and listening to different sources.

Meditation is the art of voluntary calming yourself and knowing how to control your own focus. The goal of meditation is to observe yourself. You can choose to observe your breath, any part of your body or even observe what your mind is busy doing which are your thoughts. You then realize that your thoughts in your mind are not who you are, but the one who observes your thoughts. You are the observer.

For beginners, my recommendation is to find guided meditations. You can find a lot of free guided meditation mp3on the internet if you you only have to look for them.

I came to find that the practice of meditation has a lot of good results. Side effects that range from being able to last longer in bed (for men) to learning a new skill or a new language faster.In this article, I will stick with how to last longer in bed for men since it is my subject I teach everyday.

I started advising men who want to last longer in bed to meditate and the results were spectacular. The principle is that In your body, the ejaculation is controlled by the sympathetic nervous system (which is related to stress). So learning to relax yourself will give you a better ability to control your ejaculations. If you are able to relax all of your body, you will also be able to relax the muscles that activate ejaculation and you will be able to control what the sympathetic nervous system is trying to do. With meditation, you will get used to on purpose relax your muscles and your whole body.

I also teach men that breathing is very important to last longer in bed. We are used to stop breathing properly when sexually excited we are. When we stop breathing, our muscles become tensed and we lose control. I suggest to put your attention on the breath at all time and to use what I call deep breathing in order to let your arousal go back down. Deep breathing is a breath that comes from the belly. A lot of guided meditation will teach you to put your focus on respiration. Some will also show you how to breath deeply from your belly.

another essential feature when you want to last longer in bed is to be more aware of your own body and your own sensations. It's essential so you always know where you are in your arousal and you don't reach the point of no return. To be focused on our own sensations is not something most men are used to do. But meditation will rapidly fix this. Most guided meditations will tell you to focus your attention on certain parts of your body, from one place to the other.

So helped by meditation, you can train yourself to relax all your body, to put your attention on your breathing, to breath profoundly and to also focus on your feelings. These are all skills very helpful if you want to last longer in bed by better controlling your ejaculations and your own body. So come on...meditate.