Communication with the teenager is extremely important, however many of the typical changes that occur during adolescence tend to interfere with the effectiveness and amount of interaction between parent and child. In addition to the raging hormones, teens tend to spend more time in their room, with their peers, and away from family activities. As a result, opportunities for communication may diminish during this period of your child's life.
Learning to communicate effectively with your teen will open doors and strengthen the relationship for both of you. Learn to talk (and listen) to your teen about the life issues they are facing. Below are three simple tips to help break down communication barriers.
Be more specific. Don't just ask how their day was and get upset that all he/she says is "fine."Ask about a specific class, or how one of their close friends is doing. The more interest you show in their lives, the more willing they will be to open up to you.
Be Available. Though you are already stretched thin trying to juggle a professional life with a home life, it is crucial that you stay available to your teenager when they seem interested in talking with you. If your teen seems to be hanging around the room you are in, pay attention, something may be on their mind. Make them a priority and you will find that their trust in you will grow.
Listen. When your child tells a story, listen carefully and single-mindedly. Try not to space out or think of other things, even if the story is long-winded or boring. Ask questions that show your child you are listening and you care. This will encourage them to share more often because they see that you really want to know.
There is no question that in today's society our teens face very tough issues. They need their parents to be on their side. You can help your teen face anything and show them that you are on their side by using above simple yet effective communication tips.