No matter how bad you are afraid to argue, there’s unfortunately a huge possibility that you will still have to do it since it’s also a part of communication when people are trying to solve a conflict. Furthermore, it’s necessary to learn about how to keep the talking process that you’re having with your partner in control so it doesn’t turn into nasty arguments and further making the conflict more complicated and harder to resolve.

The next time when you’re facing a conflict with your partner you can do this. Instead of bottling up your feelings or run away once again, ask him/her to support you so you can feel more comfortable in dealing with the issue.

Here are 7 tips you can use when talking to your partner:

Try to find a comfortable yet suitable time and condition which both of you can talk and think objectively; a supportive ambiance can help to make you feel more relax and comfortable in talking about your feeling or opinion
You both are trying to communicate to each other. Take turns, the best and effective communication is when there’s only one person do the talking while the other’s listening.
Try to be supportive in whatever your partner is telling you and try to think from his or her point of view; remind yourself that your loved one is trying to be heard by you.
Start to face the fact and accept that as an adult, you’re responsible for your own feelings and opinions. So, speak up and tell your partner when you disagree.
Focus on talking about the conflicting issue and how to resolve it. If any of you should comply, make sure no one feels like they’ve been unfairly sacrificed.
If the talk gets heated, don’t start yelling at each other; you both are trying to resolve an issue, not doing a shouting match.
Control your anger, whenever should it get heated, put the argument on "hold".

Conflict really is not something to be feared of. It’s really up to you to decide. If you ever let your fear to conquer you then it can paralyze your life but if you have decided to stand up and learn how to handle it, one day, who knows, you might find yourself getting so excited with conflicts to grow along with and make you a better and more mature person.