Part 3: A Hair Loss Writer's Experience Wearing a Hair System

After this experience with nonsurgical hair systems, I learned that my (bald) head's in a different place.

In Parts 1 and 2 of this article, I spent time writing about how I felt, both physically and emotionally, wearing a hair system for five weeks. MHN Studio of New York, a provider of hair loss treatments who specialize in nonsurgical hair replacement, provided the hair system and service. During that time I was part of a special brotherhood and therefore felt that I could talk on a new level with others who have firsthand knowledge of "rugging," as one of them puts it.

Steve and Marvin are two of these people. Steve's hair loss is what people typically think of when they speak of a bald man. Steve has a ring of hair around the edge of his scalp but a dome that is hair free. He started losing his hair in his mid-20s, and once it started, it went quickly. He's been "in and out of hair therapy," as he puts it, for years. He's tried various hair growth treatments, and has been a "hair system jockey" several times. Presently, Steve is happy with a system that he started wearing about eight months ago; before that he had gone "topless" for about two years.

Hair systems: The so-called "attraction issue"

Marvin is a "bald in back" guy. His hairless crown isn't noticeable from the front, which makes the view from the back "a big surprise to a lot of women," he says. "They act like I've gone from Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde when I haven't changed at all. They just are too shallow to deal with a little skin on my head." Tired of this kind of reaction, he started wearing hair three years ago and is generally pleased. "I'd rather be natural," he says, "but I also want companionship. I keep waiting for a woman who doesn't get cold feet when I tell her I wear hair; so far that hasn't happened."

"You're married," Steve said to me, "so you don't have to deal with the same kind of issues single guys do. A wife may not be happy if her husband is losing hair, but she's not likely to leave you over it. And if her husband decides to 'carry hair,' she's probably going to be happy about it -- she may even have had a lot to do with persuading him to do that. Even if she has reservations, if she's worried that people will be able to tell that her man has a hairpiece and how that will make her feel, she's still not going to leave him over that."

"Also," Marvin adds, "you don't have to worry about a hair accident with your wife. I mean, I know hair systems are pretty secure, but they do come loose sometimes. If an end starts coming unglued in front of your wife, you can laugh about it. If you're with someone who doesn't even know that your hair isn't all your own, it can be incredibly embarrassing."

"Every guy who has worn hair worries about that in the beginning," Steve confirms. "And every guy also secretly wishes that he could one night be with a woman who is so consumed by passion that she pulls his hairpiece off -- and then keeps right on going, not giving a damn that he's bald.

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