After breaking up, the rules of no contact are extremely important for many reasons. Whether you want to just get over the break up and the emotional pain or hope to someday get back together with your ex someday, the rules of no contact after breaking up can help you enormously.
Determine if you can use the no contact rule!
There are a few reasons in which you cannot use the no contact rule, and you have to have some kind of contact with your ex. These reasons are when you have kids together, work together, live together, or go to school together. In these above cases youíll have to use limited contact.
Do NOT use limited contact if you can use no contact. You may think that the limited contact rule will be a better option since youíll be keeping in contact with your ex, but itís not. Using limited contact with an ex is a disadvantage when trying to get an ex back.
Accept The Break Up!
You have to accept that youíre now broken up with your ex and your old relationship is over. Youíll need to get over the break up and the emotional pain and heart break in order to move on.
Accepting the break up leads you on the path to healing, and thatís exactly what you want to do if you want a better chance of getting an ex back.
Get Rid of Neediness and Desperation!
Too many ignore this rule of no contact and believe that they need their ex back. Look, you donít need them back. You want them back.
Being needy and desperate will make your ex not ever want you back. Why? Thatís how you were shortly after the break up. Crying, begging, and pleading for them to change their mind. Did it work? No, and thatís why youíre reading this article. Get rid of neediness and desperation while youíre in no contact.
Get Active and Get A Life!
Thereís a lot of mistakes I see when it comes to getting an ex back, but if youíre mentality is that your life revolves around your ex, youíre in trouble. I want to make one thing clear, and thatís your life nor happiness isnít determined by your ex. Itís determined by you.
Youíll need to stay busy in order to help you keep your ex off your mind all the time. Donít just sit around the house and mope. Get out there and live. Dive back into an old hobby, or start up a new one. Make a goal that doesnít have to do with your ex.