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Two Major Mistakes You Should Stop Making Right Now
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By: Andy Kay Email Article
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"Why can’t I just figure stuff out like everyone else?"

"Am I the only one who doesn’t know how to take control of my life yet?"

"How did everyone else learn know how to handle all these challenges?"

"How come everyone else seem so freakin’ content all the time?"

Any of these ring a bell?

Ever notice how we tend to think that we’re the only one who hasn’t got it all figured out yet?

Of course you do. We all think like this sometimes. After all, we’ve never been as old as we are at any given time. And since we haven’t, then how are we supposed to know what to do about everything?

It’s funny, then, how "everyone else" seem to be perfectly on top of things, even though the same condition applies to them too.

… Of course there’s always that one utterly clueless idiot, but generally, "everyone else" doesn’t seem like much of a stretch when it comes to these things.

What if I told you that most people think this way about others – including you?

Why is this?

Well, for one thing. Our minds still haven’t evolved much in the last 10.000 years or so. We’re still subconsciously on the lookout for potential threats anywhere, anytime. But today there’s no sabre-toothed tigers anywhere. Our subconscious mind, then, considers our main threat to be other people.

Therefore, we tend to not only overestimate others, but, accordingly, underestimate ourselves.

We want to keep up appearances because they serve us like a barrier towards… well, unpleasant stuff.

Look at the average Facebook pictures. You’ll see people’s vacations, their nights out, and other social gatherings. The status updates will be about pets, babies, and plain ol’ food. So… nice things, really.

What you probably won’t see are people’s marital arguments. Their sudden panic attacks while at the store. That one time they got too drunk and embarrassed themselves at a family reunion because deep down they were miserable.

Those things aren’t comfortable… So we put a lid on them.

Since we tend to be closed about these unpleasant sides of our lives, it’s easy to mistake other people’s apparent lack of problems for success. Which, of course, it’s not. It’s simply cultural taboo doing its thing.

Furthermore, it’s easy to get caught up in one’s own problems. After all, you’re the one having them, right? Nobody knows your problems better than you, and they’re no bigger to anybody else but you.

The combination of those two things — overestimating other people’s apparent success + underestimating one’s actual blessings, advantages and abilities = one debilitating combo.

The problem is, it’s easy to let it deceive you.

The good news is, it’s exactly that: Nothing more than effective deception.

Statistically, you’ll be off like the majority when it comes to having problems. And chances are that you’ll be blowing your own ones out of proportion.

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As a confidence coach, Andy Kay helps people who are held back -- by fear, overwhelm, anxiety, indecisiveness, anything. After years studying confident, successful people, he knows what works and what doesn't. He doesn't tolerate "spiritual" BS about "higher powers" and "purposes". -- We have access to all the power we need to achieve our own purposes; period. Visit and get confidence and empowerment by mail!

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