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We don't "deserve" anything
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By: Andy Kay Email Article
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Many coaches and self-development whizzes will talk about living the life you "deserve", and how you somehow "deserve" certain things. But... You donít deserve anything.

Because nobody does. And already, I have a good idea what most of you are thinking:

"But Iíve been miserable for so many years! I deserve to be happy!" "Iíve worked so hard! I deserve money!" "Iíve never slept with a girl! I deserve sex!"

No. You donít deserve anything, and hereís whyÖ

Whenever we do anything, we do it because itís what everything in our lives leads towards.

When we do something out of habit, we run on autopilot. Our habits are formed through a myriad of contributing factors, internal and external.

Whenever we break habits, itís because we use our will. But our will is just as much of an inescapable condition as our habits.

When we break habits, it's because our habits have become unbearable. - To an extent where change is the only option. And whenever we try something new, our guiding contributor is our curiosity. Which is just as ingrained as our habits, our will, and everything else comprising our personalities.

I know: This is kinda heavy on the philosophy. Bottom line: We gotta understand and accept that life isnít fair. Everyone is who they happen to be. They still don't deserve anything more or less.

While this doesnít mean we donít have any will of our own, it simply means that our will isnít "free"; itís conditioned. The only things of which our thoughts, feelings and actions are independent are the things to which we arenít exposed in the first place.

For example, you canít somehow want pancakes unless at some point youíve heard about the existence of pancakes.

"But we can invent things! Someone invented pancakes!"

Yes. And that person wouldnít have been able to without hearing about the existence of flour, eggs, sugar, and water, and being disposed to combine them.

Weíre not the unique center of the universe just because weíre self-conscious. We can combine things - willfully or accidentally. But the comprising elements need to be available to us first.

Also, this doesnít mean there are no values. Itís just that there are no objective values.

Some might claim that empathy, love, and procreation is "bigger" than us, transcending generations. But in a larger perspective, it still falls flat.

Eventually, mankind dies. Like the five billion species before us. Eventually, Earth will be swallowed by the sun. There will be no individuals to experience "values". And even though we might consider the existence of otherworldly species that might share a resemblance of these values, we have no way of knowing.

(Enough philosophy for today, I promise!)

Now hereís the liberating part:

If we want values, we just gotta pick Ďem for ourselves. Your values are as good as any. So stick by them. If need be, you can always change them as you go along.

The universe; destiny; God; whatever you call it, owes you exactly squat.

And therein lies liberation. BecauseÖ

Whenever we think we "deserve" something, we live by entitlement. And confident people have no need for entitlement. They know that the only reward we get is whatever we set ourselves up for, and that the path towards it is a purpose in itself.
Confident people set themselves up for success knowing perfectly well that we don't deserve anything. Because itís not a matter of "deserving" it. - Itís simply a matter of doing whatever it takes to achieve whatever we want.

Andy Kay helps people who are held back -- by fear, overwhelm, anxiety, indecisiveness, anything. After years studying confident, successful people, he knows what works and what doesn't. He doesn't tolerate "spiritual" BS about "higher powers" and "purposes". -- We have access to all the power we need to achieve our own purposes; period. Visit and get confidence and empowerment by mail!

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