If youíre anything like I used to be, youíve been held back by your current problems for more than a matter of months. You've wanted to be taking the first step. But... How??
We do this for several reasons. Some more evident than others.
For example, if lack of confidence is holding you back, thereís probably several by-problems affecting your entire predicament.
You might feel too tired; stressed; hurt; overwhelmed; too frightened. Or your fear might be an inner, hidden one which manifests as apparent laziness and comfortability.
Maybe you donít know how to plan your time. Maybe you prioritize wrongly. Or maybe you donít feel comfortable in making the right choices.
The right choices are different from everyday ones like choosing what to wear, what to eat, when to sleep, what to read, etc.. For the most part, those make but small differences in our lives.
Conversely, making the right choice is the last thing anyone does before permanently changing their life for the better.
The right choice has will and focus behind it. A will to go in a certain direction; a focus on the direction itself.
Now, those things in themselves donít make any choice "right". (Iím sure a lot of murderers had will and focus tooÖ) But any right choice will necessarily encompass will and focus.
Then, why is making the right choice so hard for people with low confidence?
Iíd like to be able to present a simple, yet surprising reason here. But the fact is, people are different, and so are their sources of low confidence, respectively.
Some might not know what they want. Others might, but may then be too scared of failure and humiliation. - Or even of the responsibility and exposure following a successful completion.
Whatever it is, hereís the good news:
While taking the first step might seem hard, the first step matters less than you think.
So what really matters is that no matter how you feel, you go ahead and do it anyway.
Yes, itís scary. But you can do it.
Consider how great musicians and speakers get nervous before going onstage. Hell, great artists are among the worldís most notoriously depressed people.* But they do it anyway.
Iím not making you feel bad about yourself. Iím saying, whatever you want to do CAN be done.
And if you donít know what you want, you wonít find out by wallowing in inactivity, but by getting out and gathering new inspiration.
Remember: You can always change directions. If youíre stuck somewhere, you probably wonít evolve. But whatever new place you go, youíll learn new things to help you further on.
All you gotta do is to be taking that first step to get going.
1) Write down your three biggest values, your three biggest strengths, and your three biggest interests.
2) Take the biggest one from each category, and write down three possible ways of combining the three into something youíd like to do.
3) Pick one.
4) Write down the three first things you can do to make this happen.
5) For the next three days, do one of these things.
6) Repeat point 4) to 5).
Congratulations: You're taking the first step.
* https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3181877/; https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10203964