A frequent problem that we as parents come across is what to do when your child steals. There are many reasons a child might steal and a number of ways to handle the issue.

Young children do not steal. Children below the age of four or five do not have a concept of ownership. They do not understand that it is wrong to take things that belong to others.

By the time a child enters elementary school, he should know that stealing is wrong. Children at this age take things because they lack self-control.

A preteen or teen may steal for the thrill of it or because that is what friends are doing. He may be trying to gain a feeling of control over his life or to fill an emotional void.

Whatever the reason your child is stealing, you need to approach the problem with wisdom. If you just react according to your natural inclination, your response will almost certainly be wrong and destructive.

Why a Child Steals

1-Child Can't Control Himself

Younger children lack self-control. A child may take something although he knows that stealing is wrong simply because he can't help himself. You should give your child the ability to get what he wants in an honest way. Also, try to minimize the temptation.

2-Child's Basic Needs are Not Being Met

Children are completely dependent on their parents for all of their needs. A child who feels that his needs are not being met will eventually take the matter into his own hands. The easiest way for a child to do this is to take what he needs.

What a person needs is subjective. Even if you feel that your child does not need something, it might be a real need for your child. For example, if the child's school friends have pocket money, then your child could have a need for it. He will feel a lack if he doesn't have it, even if you provide him with everything that he wants. This type of child may be tempted to steal money just so he has money like everybody else.

3-Child Needs More Attention

The most common reason that children steal is that they feel an emotional lack in their lives. A child, who does not have his emotional needs met, feels empty inside. He may take things in an attempt to fill the void. Often children who steal are lonely or having trouble in school or with friends. They lack the tools or the opportunity to express their feelings.

Many children do not get the attention they need. Such a child may feel unloved or that the parents are not interested in him. This may or may not be true. As explained in How to Improve Your Child's Behavior, how your child perceives your attention is more important than the amount of attention that you give. These children may translate their emotional needs into material desires. Stealing is their way for these children to express their discontent and to seek gratification.

4-Child Needs to Have Control Over His Life

Children are acutely aware of their vulnerability. They lack control over their lives. Some children have difficulty with this. If the child has trouble feeling dependant, he may steal to gain a sense of control or to rebel.

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