This is a question that the majority of guys get confused about because they don’t want to be a bank for women though at the same time they do not want the woman to see them as unable to support them and a tight.

My belief is that if a woman asks you to go out and do something then she pays and if you ask the woman out somewhere then you pay. Now this has worked for me and I still use it to this day. This happens at the start of the relationship and then as time goes on it basically becomes like someone pays a time and the other person pays another time, there is no awkwardness in paying and no problems. If a woman says she is going to pay for you or she wants to pay for you than accept it and let her. Most people think that this is "wrong" and will offend a woman, though did you think it might offend a woman if you decline her offer and pay for yourself?

Because this is such a touchy subject at the start of the relationship you need to test and see what the woman is like whether she is a gold digger or not and yes there are gold diggers out there men so don’t kid yourself. If you take a woman out to have lunch or dinner and you both order and it is time to pay watch carefully and take your wallet out and if the woman starts to open her bag or gets her purse out then you know she is there because of you and not your money and yes of course pay for the meal.

Knowing whether to pay for a woman or not is not a problem unless you make it a problem. Most men feel obliged to pay for women because they must be the bread winner and that is fine but if you always pay and never let the woman pay then you never receive.

Guys make the mistake of paying for women all the time and then once a woman gets "used" to the man paying for everything she just expects everything to be paid for her. You just need to know whether a woman is there for your money or you.

If you are wealthy and the woman knows that when she meets you then you might attract women who are interested in money. How much money you have and what you have is none of their business at the start of a relationship and don’t worry you will in time see what they are interested in.

Majority of women if you know how to attract them you will not have to worry about this problem because no amount of money will matter to them, they will be wanting to be with you and spending time with YOU. So instead of worrying if a woman is a gold digger or not learn how to attract women and look for patterns and then you will also be able to see what it is a woman wants from you.

Though every women I have been out with when I learnt how to attract woman have ALL reached for their purses or their bags to pay when I have been somewhere with them and of course I pay. So I would suggest if the woman asks you to go somewhere then you don’t have to pay and if she offers accept the offer and if she asks you to go somewhere pay for yourself like she would after all she organized the event and if you ask the woman out somewhere you pay and as the relationship builds not long after this issue will no longer be an issue.