You’ve overcome the massive competition on an adult dating site and actually got your message read and she replied to it. You transitioned to the phone call and now you’re going to meet her in person. So, what next? Well, even though you’ve met this person on a sex dating site and you and she both know this is simply about casual sex, most women are going to want to meet you in public before they consider going anywhere private with you. This is may be for no other reason than she wants to give herself the illusion that she’s being "safe".

Now, some guys think that if she’s meeting you in person, sex is a done deal. It’s definitely not. Even though you’ve met this person on an adult dating site and she is no doubt interested in having sex, it doesn’t mean she is going to have sex with you no matter what. You can still easily blow the deal and you’ll both go home disappointed.

If you are too focused on closing the deal and you rush things, you will come across as desperate - which is usually a major turn-off for a woman. Most women are sexually attracted to men who are confident, funny, assertive, and who have SELF-CONTROL. Believe it or not, most women place a much higher priority on your behavior and personality than on your looks or money - particularly if they are there for a casual sex hookup and not looking for a relationship. If you’re too much in a rush and come across as a drooling moron, she’ll be turned off so fast it will be like someone flipped off a light switch. You need to relax, play it cool and let things develop. If she’s in a hurry to get the party started, great! Go at her pace, but don’t you be the one to rush things.

My recommendation is to go into any and every date with the mindset of you are there to simply have a good time - NOT that you are there to immediately have sex. If you’re meeting at a public place like a restaurant, club, or whatever, simply plan to have a good time at that location, have something to eat, enjoy a drink or two, or do whatever there is to do. You go meet the woman stick to fun, light topics of conversation and joke around and tease her. Have fun and take things as they come! You are there to have a great time whether or not the date leads to sex. And if you do go with the flow and play it cool, there’s a very good chance the date WILL lead to sex.

If you play your cards right, not only will it lead to sex, but most likely she will be the one who initiates things getting physical. Before you know it, she’s asking if you want to go somewhere more private, or she may even climb all over you right there in public - try to keep things enough under control that you don’t get arrested! Remember to remain confident (or at least pretend to be), and definitely remember to tease her, most of the time she will get so turned on she won’t wait for you to make the first move.

One quick word on how to tease your date. There are a lot of things you can do, but since you met her on an adult dating site, an easy way to tease her is to keep making references to how she must be a horny freak to place an ad on a sex dating site. Most women will come back with a remark about how you did the same thing, to which you reply something along the lines of, "But I’m a man. I’m SUPPOSED to be a horn-dog! You’re not acting very lady-like!" You can follow-up with comments like "Now don’t assume I’m easy and I’m just going to jump in the sack with you because you met me on a sex dating site! Do try to control yourself!" Always make such comments with an obviously exaggerated tone of voice so she’ll know you’re teasing. The bottom line is to try to relax, and just have fun with her.

The less you try to take things to a "physical level" with your dates, and just had fun with them, the more likely they are to gradually get really turned on and to initiate getting physical with you. It’s a lot of fun to sit back, have a good time, and (once you’ve done this a few times and have had some great experiences) to KNOW that you’ll wind up getting laid without even trying. Once you reach that point, dating becomes so much fun, it’s almost addictive. Have fun!