Taking up new activities of interest such as cooking, bungee jumping, writing
Making new friends and widening social circle
Resuming dating and getting intimate with members of the opposite gender This is extremely important for the male divorcer. He has to feel good about himself. Dating and sexual encounters restore his faith and belief that his virility and fertility are intact. He still has the attraction power with women. In fact, research suggests that divorced men want to date young women. This adds to the belief that dating is considered a social symbol among divorced men.
But it should not be rushed into. Hurried dating leads to rejection further hurting the male divorcer. It is preferable to date social acquaintances and friends to seek social approval. Dating boosts self-esteem. Research suggests that older divorced men go in for serial dating. More than 25% of men start dating their exes.
Another cause of concern is children. It is important not to lose contact with the kids. The parent has to ensure that direct and two-way communication always exists between him and the child. Behaviour therapy sets out a few guidelines:- Follow regular visitation schedules
- Be cordial with ex in front of the child
- Do not make child uncomfortable by abusing or criticizing ex in front of child
- Introduce child to your friends and social partners
- Always allow the child to maintain direct phone contact with you
- Keep in touch with letters, cards ands gifts if residing in another country
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