It’s a brand new year – but will you get it right this time?

Well, a few of you have actually put down your goals in writing! Congratulations, that is the first step to getting it right this time around, this year, this new chance.

. . . If you have not yet actually written your goals, how about using this weekend to do it? The rush of the holiday season is now over and people are getting back into their routines and normal life. This weekend would be perfect to set aside time for you and your future, don’t you think? So get that time locked down – and ask your significant other to join you. Grab your favorite cup of coffee or tea and just do it!

But I digress. The topic of this article is all about getting it right this time. Ok, so you are all excited, you have your goals and resolutions, and you really want to change. You really want this to be your best year yet.

So what stopped you in the past? Probably a myriad of reasons. You are human, after all and life sometimes just gets in the way of what we want. Other things get our attention and focus, and before we know it, what happened to that intention about exercising three times a week???? Or what happened to that intention of participating at a higher level in your department’s weekly meetings?

If I could give you a way of thinking that actually shows you how successful people analyze the reality of really accomplishing their goals, would that would be of value to you? Ok, here it is, short and simple.

Very simply, people change their behavior if they can answer two questions with a "yes!". The first question is "Is this worth it?", and the second question is simply "Do I have the ability to it?"

I tell my clients that success comes from a system like a three legged stool. You all know that metaphor – 3 points to make a plane, 3 legs on a stool to be stable. If one leg gets weak, you still have the other two to help balance you.

The first leg of the stool is personal, or inside you. And I think this is the foundational leg. Without this leg, no goal is going to be accomplished. Or if it is accomplished, it won’t be sustained. And sustaining the changed behavior is what it’s all about. So the question here is, "do I think the work and effort to achieve this goal is worth it?", and then, "do I really think I can do this?".

The second leg that supports the foundational leg is social, or in relationship with others. So the question here is "will my family and friends support me in this goal" and "do I think my current social support is sufficient?" If the answer is no, don’t stop there. It’s your responsibility to succeed, not theirs! So, who could you enlist to support you and hold you accountable? This is going to be different people for different goals, depending on what their strengths are. One friend might be the social support for weight loss, and it may be your spouse that is the support for your financial goal or to help you get that promotion you so badly want. Find the right social support. There is a reason for the rise in personal and professional coaches in our society.

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