What happens when you want to play the artist in the seduction game? That is, when you’re searching actively for a girl you’d like to hook up with? I have experienced it many times, and more men in thousands are still experiencing it today when they themselves are out playing the game. This is how it happens normally. When in a group with a couple of girls, taking lunch, having a drink or in a party, you may happen to set your eyes on one particular girl. You feel that you should make something happen between the two of you, that is a little closeness, But then you realize she is hard to come close to her yet she smiles every time you make a joke. She is nice, polite, and looks at you straight in the eye yet she does not talk to you directly, know for sure that you should start using the infamous deflection theory on her.

Does this happen because she doesn't like you or because you are not her type, no! There must be a reason, a very special reason, something to do with psychology and the social set up that you two happen to be. You see when you suddenly express interest in this girl as good looking as she may be, you are in actual sense imploring her ego and her self esteem and actualization. One thing is for sure, she knows you have identified her already and that you are interested in her. At this point in time she feels great and elevated to a higher level that the friends she is accompanying. What she knows is this. If she reciprocates the interest and flirts with you, her friends might notice these and she might lose the position of importance she might have gained, she therefore maintains "am too hard to get" stand. But you know your mission has to be accomplished, that is, to get her!

In this case, i would advise you to use the deflection theory to solve this problem. Turning this situation involves finding something else that you can concentrate on, thus turning your attention from her, effectively lowering the psychological high level she had put herself on. You can do this by concentrating on one of her friends instead. This is deflection theory at its best. This is the best way to challenge he ego, give her friends even more attention and concentration and the girl you are interested in will start to fight, albeit subconsciously to regain her elevated position, she might start being more playful and attentive. She could even start flirting with you. I have been in this situation, so i know. She feels she cannot have you so she fights for you the more. Deep inside yourself you know she is the hottest of the group and its her that you want. Using deflection theory challenges her so much that she feels a strong desire to win back your attention. This is all what you had all along wanted.

This is how deflection theory works in a nutshell: Using eye contact when chatting to all of the girls. But, when chatting to your target girl, glance away occasionally to one of the other ladies and give a faint smile and then look back at your girl. This starts an urgent sense of competition in the mind of the girl that you are really interested in. This makes her fight for your attention. Or you could make some physical contact with one of her friends by touching the top of her folded knee, then retracting back. But you have to be careful in this one. I would not want you to lose the war.