I do believe that you can achieve things that seem impossible. It is possible to achieve the seemingly impossible through the correct approach. There are, however, certain things that can never be changed - like the past! You only experience stress when you want to change things that are not or cannot be changed!

So to remove stress all you need to do is remove the underlying desire to change the situation. I am not asking you to let go of your dreams or goals. Neither does it involve not achieving your desires. It is merely letting go of that grasping feeling behind your desire. When you do this not only will you feel less stressful but you will be in a more receptive productive state to acquire what you want. However, it is necessary to let go of your desire to change what has already been!

Luckily for us a technique for removing these desires was created. It's called 'releasing'. This is a technique which is highly effective but little known in the western world. If we go back to our new definition of stress we can find out how to instantaneously release it wherever we are. Our refined definition of stress states that it is "a state of heightened emotional and mental imbalance caused by internal or external forces in one's life". We now know that it is you're wanting to change this external force that is causing the stress so a better definition would leave out the "external" bit of the sentence. The definition of stress becomes this - a state of heightened emotional and mental imbalance caused by internal forces!

How can we utilize this knowledge to eliminate the stress?

You are now ready to practise this technique. Think of some time when you were slightly annoyed about something. Concentrate fully on this exercise. This only takes a few moments. Once you know how to do it you can do it while you do other things. But for now, while you are learning it, give it your full attention. Once you have the annoyance in mind ask yourself the following question - "what do I want to be different in this situation/person/event and what would I like to change about it?This allows you to become aware of the thoughts that are creating your annoyance. Then ask yourself this question, "how do I feel about that?" This forces the mind to produce the emotions behind the stress. Now for that moment stop suppressing the emotions and allow yourself to fully feel them. Let your feelings express fully in your body, don't try to push them down. You will find when you do this the emotions reach a height and then start to fade away. You are now releasing the emotion. Once it is gone it is gone for good!

Here is an example of how to use this. Your boss tells you that you must finish an assignment by a certain deadline. However, you are well aware that this is an impossible task yet you feel the mounting pressure to succeed at the task and try to get it done. You then find yourself rushing around doing ten things at all at once while you experience more and more stress caused by your impending deadline. So, you ask yourself the first stress-buster question - "what do I want to be different in this situation/person/event?" Let's say the answer that comes to mind is something like, "I want my boss to stop putting me under pressure". You have just identified some of your thoughts and desires behind the stress.

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