Planning the right strategy before getting married

You’ve got to have such a compelling life that a woman is a fine addition, not the lone pitiful reason for your existence. The way to cultivate this attitude is to understand your situation (get knowledge), do enough of the right things based on this knowledge (take action), and experience success. You need to reward your nervous system for learning these new habits, and you will be the man you always wanted to be.You need to determine your current dating goal before you go any further. What is it that you want from your interaction with women? -Friendship? Someone to talk to or do things with?

-Romance? The thrill of the chase? -Marriage?

You need to know what you want up front so that you do not mislead either yourself or the women you date. If you only want casual dating, you have to be cognizant of your goal and do only the things that a man would do for a woman he was interested in dating – not marrying – such as resisting the urge to send poetry and flowers every week. Your goal will also affect your planning and strategies as you get phone numbers and set your dates each week.Your goal keeps you on track, like a homing mechanism.

Be careful of using others’ goals as your own. You might think you want to be like a rock star, sleeping with a star, but really think that through. There is a proverb that the worst curse you can place on a man is to give him what he thinks he wishes for most.Please keep in mind that while we use to categorize and break things down into fundamentals, the whole is really much more than a sum of its parts. The only way to understand something is to find some fundamental essence that can be understood and is generally accepted as true. From there you can build more sophisticated understanding as you see the various parts at work, inter-relating. This is especially the case with women and dating.The information that is given here is divulged with the understanding that nothing is black-and-white. Real life women are three-dimensional, with various shades of gray. You have to understand what is black and what is white before you can see the different variations of gray within. That is where these principles start.

Another part of this understanding is that there will be circumstances that will be difficult for you to overcome to make radical changes in your approach to women. Sometimes these are social limitations, like your peer group. Sometimes they are family issues, such as how you were brought up and the expectations placed upon you there.