With online dating, there are certain emails to delete or simply ignore.

First…delete the ones that aren’t worthy of a reply! Those will include, but certainly not limited to:

1. Emails that include pictures of their (unsolicited) genitals (yes…that’s what I said!) 2. People that are blatantly looking for sexual partners…only. 3. If your profile states: No photo…No response? Disregard email from people without photos. 4. I disregard all of the ones I consider silly and a waste of my time. Such as: "wat up?" "Hey you!" "How You doin’?" "Haven’t I seen you somewhere before?" (Yes…they use the same pick up line offline and on!)

Second…the ones you’re not interested in but feel obligated to respond to: 1. Religious beliefs that you are totally opposed to. 2. Relationship status’ that you steer clear of! (Recently divorced…legally separated for 10 years…divorced but still living together…open marriages…etc.) 3. Many children…by many different mothers/fathers.)

4. Liars…very obvious liars! (No matter what part of your relationship the following lies surface…? Whether they state it in the profiles, or they slip it in later…? Do Not Walk! Run…and NO! You do not owe them an explanation!)

The ones that claim to be doctors and lawyers, yet they are so grammatically challenged…they can’t write 1 complete sentence, without every other word being grossly mis-spelled!

The ones that claim to be 38, yet they are so proud of their oldest son…the surgeon!

The ones that claim to be retired. When they are actually unemployed and waiting for a settlement…that was filed 12 years ago!

The ones that are all hugged up with a woman in their photo…but says she’s their sister.

For this pile, I send the following generic note:

"Thanks for your interest, but I believe someone else would be better suited for you than me. Good luck in your search!"


Believe it or not, some will feel obligated to contact you again. The response will be either…"Why?" or "I’m not interested! I was just trying to be friendly!" Sometimes…"Good luck? You’re the one that needs it B****! And…"How do you know I’m not the right one. You don’t even know me!"

As far as I’m concerned, I feel no obligation to respond any further. It’s just a waste of time. With some people, even though you’ve sent them the "thanks but no thanks" note, they will continue the back and forth banter. Just let it go!

As I’ve explained, there are some emails to ignore. The main reason? Some people are just time wasters. While you are wasting your time with them, "The One" may slip by. I’m sure you don’t want that to happen!