Gentlemen, let’s face it. We go to work at the office or plant. Your wife remains home raising the children and keeping the home clean and tidy. Her day is filled with chores as yours is filled with your line of work details. You arrive home for dinner. Who does the dishes and clean up? Who Gets the children to do their homework? Who folds the laundry? Who sees the children off to bed? Who finally gets to sit down and rest three hours after you arrived home? This reflection has nothing to do with anything, but if you want a lasting marriage, the earlier you realize it the better.

That was the way we had it. Four children to raise so Irma did just that. (No wonder they grew up to be so wonderful). Today of course most of the wives hold down jobs just as do the men. They still come home after work and do all the housework and meals. When did you last offer to do the dishes?

When was the last time you told her seriously that she is the most perfect woman you have ever known? (Without prompting). How many times a day do you tell her you love her? When was the last time you bought her flowers without reason or a special occasion?

Women love to be loved. They thrive on it. They love the little things such as opening the door for them, helping them to put their coat on or take it off. Women want their men to be chivalrous. They love respect and a long lasting marriage.

Do you know what can really shorten a marriage? Winning the arguments that occasionally crop up. When someone wins, someone also loses. I have my doubts if a couple have never, ever, argued during their marriage. That would be almost impossible. Arguments will happen. It’s only human nature. But long after the argument has passed, the winner will be resented. Compare it to playing a game of golf. What difference does it make if you shot an 97 or an 98. You’re not playing in the PGA. What do you do with the score card? I’ll bet you threw it away. The difference didn’t matter. It will be forgotten very shortly.

The same goes with the argument at home. Give it up. Who cares who is right or wrong. Life is too short. To create a lasting marriage, one of the most important things you never do is go to sleep mad at each other. That is an absolute no no. Give in even if you believe you are dead right. APOLOGIZE. It doesn’t matter.

When was the last time you both went out to breakfast?

The first meal of the day is normally quite hectic. Lunches for the children. Get them off to school. One or both parents off to work. Daycare run perhaps. Weekend shopping, church, kids sports, cut the grass. Chores and more. Time out. What did you do for yourselves? Get in the habit of a break by having someone else prepare breakfast for a change. It will do a lot for both or all of you and go a long way to a lasting marriage.

A lasting Marriage . Is it Like or Love?

I thought I fell in love with Irma the moment we met. She looked so beautiful, fresh and clean. Back in 1957 girls dressed in nice dresses. They wore gloves. They would drop dead rather than be seen sloppily dressed. I remember when I would be a little early for our date, I wasn’t invited into the one room flat she and her sister rented until the two of them were perfectly groomed and clothed. A date with Irma was like a date with a queen. It was a pleasure. A thrill to be with her and to be seen with her. What fascinated me was, she never acted like one.

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