Body Language is the unspoken, non verbal communication that goes on in every Face-to-Face encounter with another human being. It tells you their true feelings towards you and how well your words are being received. Between 50-100% of our message is communicated through our Body Language. A simple roll of the eyes or hand gesture may be all it takes to convey 100% of what we mean, no words, no tone, in fact only 7-10% is attributable to the actual words we use.

Your ability to read and understand another person's Body Language can mean the difference between making a great impression or a very bad one! It really doesn’t matter how clever or knowledgeable you are in your field, if you can’t get your point across effectively or decode other people you work with then you’re at a disadvantage to those that do.

Here are ten practical tips on using Body Language to improve your life.

1.Eye contact Eye contact is one of the most important aspects of dealing with others, especially people we have just met. Maintaining good eye contact shows respect and interest in what they have to say. In the UK we tend to keep eye contact around 60-70% of the time giving a feeling of comfort and genuine warmth in your company. Any more eye contact than this and you can be too intense, any less and you give off a signal that you are lacking interest in them or their conversation.

2.Posture Posture is the next thing to master, get your posture right and you will automatically start feeling better, as it makes you feel good almost instantly. Next time you notice you are feeling a bit down, take a look at how you are standing or sitting. Chances are you will be slouched over with your shoulders drooping down and inward. This collapses the chest and inhibits good breathing, which in turn can help make you feel nervous or uncomfortable.

3.Head Position When you want to feel confident and self assured keep your head level both horizontally and vertically. You can also use this straight head position when you want to be authoritative and have what you are saying to be taken seriously. Conversely, when you want to be friendly and in the listening, receptive mode, tilt your head just a little to one side or other.

4.Arms In general terms the more outgoing you are as a person, the more you tend to use your arms with big movements. The quieter you are the less you move your arms away from your body. So, try to strike a natural balance. When you want to come across in the best possible light, crossing the arms is a no, no in front of others. Obviously if someone says something that gets your goat, then by all means show your disapproval by crossing them!

5.Legs Legs are the furthest point away from the brain; consequently they are the hardest bits of our bodies to consciously control. They tend move around a lot more than normal when we are nervous, stressed or being deceptive. Be careful too in the way you cross your legs. If you bring your leg up to rest on the knee of the other this is known as the ‘Figure Four’ and is generally perceived as the most defensive leg cross.

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