Congratulations on being engaged to remarry! That's a big decision you've made. It's time to make a bigger one. Did you know the divorce rate for remarriages is at least 60%? One reason for this is that 80% of couples do nothing to prepare for their new marriages. Don't you think it's time you become part of the minority and join the 20% who do prepare?

Today, let's take a look at seven of the most important questions to ask yourself and your partner before you start moving full steam ahead with the wedding plans.

1. How long have we dated?

Remarriage research shows us that the longer the dating period the more successful the marriage. Most remarriages happen quicker than first marriages. Usually, it's recommend that couples preparing for a first marriage date at least a year. There's a lot more work that remarrying couples need to do and a whole lot more players involved. Dating for a long time gives both of you the opportunity to get to know one another better, help your children adjust and helps you see the relationship realistically rather than through love's rose colored glasses.

2. How long have I been divorced?

Again, most remarriage research suggests that waiting a period of at least 2 years before remarrying allows for the greatest chance for success. I know you may be thinking, "Two years!!". However, take a minute and think about it. There are a lot of tasks you need to complete before you're ready to make another commitment to marriage.

3. How well do my children know my new partner?

Your remarriage will be a HUGE change for your children. This is bringing a new person into their lives whether they want them or not. Their reaction to this person will have a major impact on your marriage. It's in your best interest for your children to meet this person. Everyone needs time to be around one another in order to have a realistic idea of what this new life will be like.

4. How do I know if my kids are ready?

Divorce or death of a parent can be an extremely traumatic situation for your children. As an adult, think about how you handled the situation. Over the years, you've developed ways of coping with life's difficulties. As children, they've not had the opportunity or ability to learn those yet. Most researchers agree, that children are typically one step behind their parents in the grief process. What does this mean? You're kids may just be getting used to single parent life when you lay on them that you're planning to remarry.

5. Am I emotionally ready to move on?

A remarriage by definition means a loss has occurred, whether by divorce or death. Those losses need to thoroughly be reviewed and dealt with. If there are "ghosts" from the past, they will constantly haunt your new marriage and leave it vulnerable. Also, if you are still hurt from what happened in the past, you won't be able to make partner choices as effectively as you would if you were healed.

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