Along the way we have no doubt discovered the hard way, how to tell that he is Not the one! But for now, we going to decide who is the one.

The first key is...you’ve taken the time to get past his photo and your fantasies of "the one".

Don’t allow desperation and loneliness to make you compromise. Make sure you are looking at your potential "relationship" with your eyes wide open. You can close your eyes, but just because you can’t see the problems...doesn’t mean they aren’t there!

The second key is...once you have narrowed your choices down, make sure they have the characteristic traits that are important to you. To compromise on these in the beginning, will cause you to have regrets in the future.

If you are opposed to certain occupations, avoid them totally online! Do not spend your online time getting to know someone you have no intention of inviting into your "life". That is not fair to you or the other person. Believe it or not...this happens a lot! Some tell me it is just to "kill" time until someone better comes along! That’s misleading...and I strongly discourage it.

The third key to knowing if he is the one is; you must be sure you know exactly who and what you want! You would be surprised at the number of people I "stump" with a very simple question: "what are the 3 qualities your potential mate must absolutely have?" Some are still thinking about it! Be clear of who you are looking for before you start looking...not while you are looking!

The keys to knowing he is the one starts with you! You must know who and what you want. If not...? You’re wasting your time online...