ANGER

This is usually the one that people are willing to talk about. I don't know too many people who've gone through a divorce and smiled about it throughout the whole process. There are countless reasons why anger comes up no matter who initiated the divorce.

After the divorce, anger can continue to infiltrate your life. You may be upset about your ex-spouse's relationship with your children. You may be angry about your changed financial situation. Feeling angry with everything that's changed in your life as a result of the divorce is normal.

What's the problem with being angry?

The short answer is "nothing." Everyone's entitled to be upset. Divorce is a major, life changing event. We don't usually like too much change at once. The problem is when the level of anger you feel stays the same or intensifies over time.

You know the saying, "Time heals all wounds"? There is a lot of truth to that. If you're not "healing" then you're getting stuck. That anger won't allow you to be the parent you need to be. It also won't allow you to be the partner you need to be in future relationships.

While each of these emotions are very normal and to be expected - it's all up to you and how you handle them in deciding if you're moving toward a place of growth or a place of repeating the past. None of these emotions are comfortable and it can be hard for us to admit that we even experience them. But, trying to ignore them by jumping into a new relationship in hopes of skipping over them just doesn't work. What you'll end up with is another broken heart and possibly another broken marriage

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