Many of us have experienced first-hand the power of therapy in helping us with our troubles. And the most powerful predictor of therapy effectiveness has to do with the emotional bond formed between the therapist and client. When you feel connected to your therapist, you are more likely to overcome what is troubling you. It appears that emotional connection to another (emotional intimacy) has healing qualities.

You can improve your marriage or relationship by doing what therapists do. Let's look at how therapists build a strong connection and how you can do this in your relationship.

The power of relationships

Intimate relationships have the power to make you feel happier, energized and more alive. These experiences stem in part from the emotional intimacy and closeness you feel with your partner. Because counseling works in a similar fashion, it's helpful to look at it in this context.

In some regards, your relationship might not be so different from therapy:

There are many different forms of psychotherapy, and each therapist has his/her own unique style. This means that if you seek counseling and work with ten different therapists, you will have ten very distinct therapy experiences. Would one type of therapy be more effective than another? Not necessarily, because there is one feature all therapies and all relationships share.

Out of all the therapeutic approaches, the most healing experience of therapy arises out of the connection that develops between you and your therapist. While therapists are skilled at nurturing this type of therapeutic connection, the conditions that form this type of bond are not unique to therapy. In fact, you might already act in ways that create this type of intimacy in your own relationship.

Two ingredients necessary for emotional intimacy:

Therapists create a powerful connection by:

~ Showing unconditional acceptance.

~ Communicating an understanding of a client's deepest struggles.

When these conditions are present, the relationship becomes therapeutic, and healing can take place. Why is this so important? Because we all need acceptance and understanding from another human being. When these vital ingredients are missing from our lives, we can not reach our full potential.

1. Send the message of unconditional acceptance to your partner

Unconditional acceptance creates an atmosphere of safety; it allows you to let down your guard and truly be yourself, trusting in the security that you will not be judged or criticized--this condition is essential for emotional intimacy and a healthy relationship.

Once your guard is down and you feel secure, you're able to become fully authentic and vulnerable with your partner. It is vital that you and your partner create conditions that allow mutual vulnerabilities to surface. It's the communication of these shared vulnerabilities and the experience of mutual understanding that allows a meaningful and deep connection to form.

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