The Secret, the DVD and the book, is estimated to be selling at a rate of approximately 7,500 units a day. That out sells any other book or DVD published to date. So what is the secret about The Secret?

The Law of Attraction hit a nerve with the masses. Is it because we so desperately want more money and all the things it can buy like new cars and houses? Or maybe the need goes much deeper. Maybe each of us wants to understand how to attract whatever it is we want into our lives.

But there is one controversy never addressed about The Secret. The critics and naysayers have slammed it for focusing too much on the material stuff. In other words, it's hardly possibly to sit and imagine a BMW and it just shows up in your driveway. And, there has to be some truth to that, right? Otherwise we would have all won the lotto by now.

OK, so what is the distinction that needs to be made?

What if the answer lies in refining a need from a desire?

Let's take a look. A need is a requirement, a necessary duty or an obligation. For example, we require food, shelter, water, clothes and a means to support ourselves. A want, on the other hand, is to feel inclined, to wish for or to crave or desire something - anything.

Here's the critical and beneficial distinction to make for yourself: Is what I'm trying to attract a need or a desire? Maybe this is where we can be fooled.

The media spends millions of dollars every year convincing us that we must have their products or services. How many times a day are we distracted from pursuing our own path in life by these annoying messages? Lose weight, have plastic surgery, make your penis larger, grow more hair, whiten your teeth and on and on. It's endless and destructive because it takes our focus away from what we need to be doing with our own lives. What everyone else thinks be damned.

Dr. Wayne Dyer speaks about self-actualization being the highest level a person can reach which includes being "independent of the good of other people." Which means being detached from outcomes and living a life on purpose. Your purpose - not someone else's.

The first step is to get clear on what it is you need to be attracting into your own life. This is where another distinction needs to be made. Here's the caveat first: if you think and feel that your life is only about acquiring wealth and fame or power, then what I'm about to say will sound like a load of crap. If however, you feel that your life is meant for a higher spiritual purpose, this might just make some sense to you.

Distinguish First Between a Need and a Desire

Your higher power will fulfill all of your needs. It is your birthright. What you want, on the other hand, may not be in the best interest of your personal growth.

Let's take this on a simplistic level. I may want a chocolate brownie dripping in syrup. But if I'm diabetic or seriously overweight, it may not be the best thing for my body which is a substantial requirement for staying alive.

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