In our free course about the Top 10 Compatibilities for a Successful Relationship and in our Love by Design book we mention that one of the potential incompatitabilities in a relationship is what we call people who are Charactered Disordered. Character disordered people are people who simply put, lack character.

When a person lacks character it is hard to have a relationship with them because they only play by their own rules and are often not up front and honest in their relationship. They are also not interested in playing fair in any situation. It is these same characteristics that make up what is commonly known know days as a player.

We have received a lot of feedback and questions asking for more information about people who are character disordered and how to tell if your partner is one of them. So we have created this article to go over 10 Common Signs that your partner is Character Disordered.

As a preamble, most people to a certain degree are like the following examples, but is when your partner has these traits down to a science, and it is natural and easy, frequent and intentional that’s when you know they are character disordered. I go over each one in turn.

1) IT”S YOUR FAULT, NOT MY FAULT TACTIC
2) SUBCONSCIOUS INFLUENCING WORDS LIKE “YOU” AND“ SHOULD”
3) OPPORTUNITIST- INTENTIALLY KEEPS DISCUSSIONS OPEN TO BE ABLE TO USE UNSOLVED DISCUSSIONS TO THEIR ADVANTAGE
4) YEAH, YEAH, WE WILL DISCUSS THAT LATER SYNDROME
5) FAIT DU COMPLETE EXTRODAIRE
6) WATCH THEM PLAY A GAME TO SEE WHAT THERE PARADIGM ABOUT LIFE IS
7) DRAMA QUEEN/KING
8) USES SOCIAL PRESSURE AGAINST YOU
9) HAS NO TROUBLE OR REGRET ABOUT LYING
10) AGREE WITH YOUR POINT OF VIEW AT FIRST SO YOU WILL NOT CATCH ON AS THEY CHANGE PLANS- the HGTV example

1) ITS’ YOUR FAULT. NOT MY FAULT TACTIC- A sign of a character disordered person is someone who always blames other people. They can constantly be heard saying it’s your fault, it’s not my fault. They will also never take responsibility for anything, it is always the other person, place or things fault. The tree hit my car, not that I hit the tree with my car. When it can get really bad is when they turn around any situation to make it look like you have the problem not them. If you are having a fight, you started it and you are the person stirring up problems, or making them feel bad or if you suspect your character disordered partner is lying about something, they will turn it around and say you are being paranoid or have trust issues.
Sometimes they have developed this talent unconsciously, but majority of the time they are intentionally trying to influence or control the situation by turning the situation back on you or other people.

2) SUBCONSCIOUS INFLUENCING WORDS LIKE “YOU” AND“ SHOULD”

People often use influencing words and words that directly effect the subconscious without realizing that they are doing it. Trained sales people and people who know a lot about the subconscious mind also may use these types of words intentionally. As far as whether character disordered people are aware of the power of these words or not, it is a guarantee that these words are a major part of their vocabulary. The biggest word is “You”; second biggest is “should”. If you are with a character disordered person who will constantly hear them saying. “You are paranoid” “You are the one with the problem.” “You should take care of your kids “You should stop blaming me” “You need to decide what is best for the kids.” “You should listen to what I say.” If these words are used enough, it can have an effect on even the strongest willed person. Later in this article, I will give you an example of this combined with some of the other signs.

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