Fix them with a cool, steely gaze and tell them how ashamed they should be for betraying you. If you feel the waterworks about to start, walk away ' a dramatic exit is always preferable to a hysterical scene.

3) So, who do you want to keep?

Sadly, this now means that one of them is going to have be gone from your life, your man or your friend.

In many ways, her betrayal is far more destructive than his ' men are known to stray, but friends are supposed to keep their hands off their buddies' husbands and boyfriends.

In most cases, women choose to try and patch things up with their partner and give the boot to the friend ' after all, you can make him go with you to couples' counseling, but they don't make "broken friendship" therapy.

If you're going to make it work with him, she has to go ' and he has to agree that he won't see her anymore, either.

But if you want to keep her as a friend, this could be a lot harder. Will you be able to trust her with your next boyfriend? Will you ever be able to enjoy her company again without thinking of what she did? Rationalizing a cheating spouse's behavior ' after all, you can tell yourself, he's just a weak man ' is easier than justifying the betrayal of a trusted friend.

In the end, you may find that you need to be quit of both of them and start over. If they get together as a couple and you run the risk of seeing them socially, you may even want to think about moving to a new city.

It's not fair, but sometimes life throws you a major, destructive curveball. But when you do start over, whether it's in a new place or in your same home town, just make sure your next new friend is someone you can trust ' and that you give your heart to a man who understands the meaning of loyalty.

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