It’s off to school; hat, coat, school books, dinner money and a great slice of trepidation are ready. Our ability to learn may be linked to intelligence and concentration, but the greatest influence is the feeling of well-being. Self Esteem plays a critical role in commitment and our ability to excel.

So what influences our feeling of self esteem? Clearly as a significant function it needs careful analysis and nurturing to ensure the optimum condition prevails. We need to understand where we can support those who would benefit from this attention and in what form.

The annual performance appraisal in adult circumstances can be extremely rewarding for both parties if used properly. Equally it can be disruptive if misused as the opportunity to castigate and focus on the negatives elements of performance. I am a great believer in the need for continuous appraisal. It takes the sting out of a situation, provides immediate beneficial feedback allowing corrective or progressive actions to be taken promptly.

Storing problems merely to coincide with an appraisal is a total waste of the opportunity to encourage an individual to develop. Schoolchildren need a regular check more than ever up to reassure, encourage and provide positive corrective support. Yet this element is predominately overlooked. "How was it at school today" is hardly an approach that will reveal the full facts. A child with low self esteem may miss the opportunity to open up preferring anonymity than having to explain their feelings.

The skill is to overcome any reluctance for a child to open up. How often have we heard of incidents of a child being bullied at school that has gone unmentioned or a child struggling in lessons which only came to light in the end of term or annual report? Low self esteem has a self destruct element. Careful and progressive handling is required to nurture a positive response that can make the world of difference. Lessons become enjoyable personalities develop, general outlook and demeanour develops a positive theme and individuals become less of a target with bullies.

There a number of books and games developed to encourage positive self esteem. Possibly one of the best is the range developed by two sisters, both mothers who are passionate about children feeling good. With backgrounds in Psychology, complimentary therapy, counselling and Art and Design the sisters put their skills together to design and produce a fun, educational range of products including board games, books, relaxation CD’s and positive affirmation cards.

The range developed as educational games features four fun, funky, multi cultural characters called the Feel Good Friends who help children in different ways to gain confidence and self esteem. The range teaches children about feelings, emotions, empathy, kindness, sharing and caring and helps to change negative beliefs into positive beliefs. Most importantly children get to explore their feelings and emotions in a fun, safe way.

The products are popular with Parents, Teachers, Foster Carers, Social workers, play therapists, members of the Children and Family Court Service and other professionals working with children.

Since launching in 2006 Feel Good Friends have won business awards and a community Impact award. The Feel Good Faces board game was short listed for the UK TES and NASEN Inclusive Resource for Primary Classrooms Award as well as being highly recommended at the Toy Awards 2007