If you get this a lot, handle it by reminding the person to be visible with "Why are you asking?" or "Tell me more." This way, rather than uncomfortably saying, "Yes" without having any idea of what's coming, you're being direct in your communication and the final result will be better for both of you.

Another example of invisible communication is "What are you doing Friday night?" You wonder, Is she just curious? Does she want to invite me somewhere? Or maybe she wants me to babysit? What if she simply said, "I have an extra ticket for the concert on Friday night—would you like to come with me?" How easy is that to answer?

We all speak invisibly at times. When you catch yourself doing it, remind yourself to finish the sentence: "Do you have a minute to discuss ... ?" "What are you doing Friday night? I have concert tickets and I'm hoping you can join me." When your intent is clear, people don't feel as if they're being manipulated or trapped—and they feel comfortable responding to you.

Visible communication strengthens relationships

Visible communication makes your purpose clear—invisible communication, as in the examples above, masks your purpose. When your intent is clear, people don't feel as if they're being tricked or manipulated. They feel safe and respected. And they feel comfortable responding to you. They'll give your direct communication a direct answer. Communication is flowing and easy. Visible communication helps build stronger relationships. Make your intent visible, make your purpose clear, and strengthen your relationships.

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