We've all heard stories about couples who have been happily married for fifteen or twenty years, but suddenly split.

You may even know a few of these couples. Divorce can be devastating for an entire family, but there is hope.

These happily married couples you have heard about probably weren't so happy, and if these signs of unhappiness would have been spotting earlier in the relationship, the marriage could have been saved.

Is your spouse sending out an SOS? By learning these distress signals, you can take the steps you need to save your marriage.

1) An SOS from Between the Sheets

The first place you can look to gage the strength of your marriage is in the bedroom. After twenty years of marriage, you might not be engaging in sexual activities every night, but if you and your partner go weeks or months without a little lovin', there's probably something deeper going on.

Do you still feel sexually attracted to your partner? Does he or she still feel sexually attracted to you? If one of you makes advances often, but the spark fizzles quickly, you need to address this problem.

Talk to your partner about specific sexual wants and needs that you can fulfill. You can even look into purchasing toys, videos, and other bedtime items to help make your experiences more fun and adventurous.

Many couples, as they grow older, lose sexual drive. If both of you agree that you do not need or want sex anymore, you can still have a very healthy relationship.

However, watch for other common signs that your relationship may be in trouble. Do you often forget to say "I love you" before going to sleep?

Do you go to bed at drastically different times? Do you sleep in separate bedrooms? If you've answered yes to any of these questions, talk to your partner to make sure you are both happy with how the marriage has grown.

2) An SOS from the Kitchen

Another common mistake in marriages is poor distribution of household chores.

When both partners have busy schedules, it is important to share tasks such as cooking dinner, washing the dishes, scrubbing the floor, cleaning the bathroom, and caring for the children.

If one partner is doing significantly more of the household work than the other, or if no one is doing the work at all, your marriage could be in trouble.

Why?

With one person doing all the work, there is little time to spend together. Parents of small children may strive to find a single moment's peace without any luck.

However, if you share household tasks, you can have the extra time to watch a movie together, hire a babysitter and go out for the evening, or simply enjoy one another's conversation.

If you look around your house and no one seems to be doing the work, this could also indicate problems.

Was your situation always messy or has your partner simply stopped doing work? When one person is doing all the work, they may harbor resentment toward the other.

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