I. Starting a relationship with deception will almost always end badly, it shows that trust is broken from the beginning and in all likelihood will be broken again.

II. Relying ONLY on one’s physical appearance is acceptable for more casual encounters but cannot usually create the right environment for a long-lasting relationship, unless under some very special circumstances.

III. Using attraction as the ONLY tool often denotes a lack of the ability to deal with problems realistically, or in other words relying solely on one’s physical appearance often leaves others with the impression that other attractive traits are not be found within that individual.

Always remember that when you are getting to know a person, they in turn are getting to know you, don’t be afraid to be your true self while you’re having a little flirtatious fun. Attraction maybe a large part of what brings many people together, but to keep them together you might just have to dig a little deeper.

• Been there, done that: The compulsion to brag about, or even exaggerate, one’s accomplishments or abilities is a natural tendency toward the beginning of a relationship, after all most people are trying to impress the other person and therefore want to show off their most attractive assets; to exploit this, even if accomplished in a subtle way is NO indication of confidence. The desire to let one’s new love interest know about one’s good qualities is only natural; just keep in mind that over compensating will too often lead to disaster. Those who continuously "one-up" or "been there, done that" are almost always hiding a damaged psyche underneath and are attempting to bury it by simply not dealing with the problem(s) at all. Always keep in mind that in a lasting and open relationship there will be plenty of time to tell the person you care for all about your accomplishments, don’t over-do-it in the beginning of the relationship simply because you feel a little like you’re on display and must therefore list ALL of your good qualities at once, most people will not respond well to this behavior simply because the standard belief that "nobody’s perfect," is usually true; as in all things, balance and be yourself. Finally, the question that manages to reinsert itself into most people’s lives at one time or another:

Q: How do I become Confidant?

A: Obviously, if becoming a confident person, especially in the area of dating, were an easy task to accomplish it would not be one of the most talked about issues for those seeking relationships (and a few already in them!) Some key elements of how to obtain a level of confidence others may find attractive:

• To be confident one MUST be happy with one’s personality; flaws must be noted and either accepted in or the progress of being modified; If you don’t like who YOU are people will notice and they will often assume that you are not worth their time.

• Know where you’re going: Contentment is a wonderful and all too often overlooked quality in life, but to be completely without goals indicates that one will not necessarily work toward a better future; this is immediately applied to the relationship by those one is dating. TO be happy in one’s life does not mean that one can’t include goals and dreams to share with the person they love, having goals that might be reached together is an attractive quality for many people looking for love.

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