The very most important thing to do is the realization that you CAN do something about your loneliness, no matter what your circumstances may be, no matter what it is caused by. So stop the blame, stop escaping your problem, stop hiding from it, stop doing all those ‘negative coping’ mechanisms that don’t work for you in the long term. There are better and more effective ways to cope with loneliness and it goes beyond ‘call a friend’ (what if you don’t have any?) or ‘meet someone at the singles club’, or ‘go and see a movie’. They may be positive ways in dealing with loneliness, but overcoming loneliness is a process of change that goes way beyond that. It is a journey of self-discovery, self-acceptance and understanding of yourself or your situation and as a RESULT, you will find yourself starting to do all of those things which will get you out of your emotional isolation for good. One of the healing strategies – and you can apply this immediately if you want to – is to become your own best friend. Who wants to be your friend anyway, if you can’t be a friend to yourself? No matter where you are or what you do, realize that: – You choose how to act – You choose what to say – You choose whom to be with – You choose what to believe – You choose what to think

So in becoming your own first best friend, look at yourself in the mirror and nurture your soul by saying to yourself –out loud- only good things about yourself – yes, even if you are a male. And if you can’t think of any, the more reason you should do this exercise and the more reason you can benefit from the strategies which you can find in my book "Overcoming Loneliness" Some examples of what you can say are: "I appreciate myself for…" (your lovely curly hair, your friendly character, all that I do, etc) "I am proud of… (something you have done in the past) "I love and approve of myself" "I deserve the best and accept it now" "I experience, give and receive love"

And don’t forget – it has to be done by fully engaging yourself, with all your emotion and expression. The power of this technique should not be underestimated, and the effects it has to your mind and body. These is just on of the many ways that I recommend to people who are suffering from loneliness. If you want to learn more about how you can cope with loneliness, you can download the e-book from my website.

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