The percentage of breakups and divorces due to infidelity has increased greatly over the last decade and is a cause for great concern amongst couples in any stage of their relationship. The estimated facts and figures maybe greatly swayed by the simple fact that with newer technology people are able to keep tabs on each other with greater ease; this could mean that couples are not actually more likely to be unfaithful now, but are simply being caught more often. The issue of infidelity is one that has been discussed countless times over centuries of relationships and yet there is no firm solution, no safety net against it or fail-safe procedure to detect either the cause or the action. Many suffer from extreme cases of jealousy or insecurity, often the two are intermingled and can lead to the belief that their partner has or will be unfaithful at some point in the relationship. The very idea of infidelity can be enough to ruin a relationship simply because the trust, at least in one’s mind, is broken; when one is unable to trust their partner the problem can manifest itself in many horrible ways and create an irresolvable tension between the two people. Before making accusations or causing oneself to suffer unconfirmed suspicions, one must always keep the power of the imagination, coupled with feelings of doubt in mind. Working through such doubts can be a difficult task for both people in the relationship; however most can be overcome if the lines of communication are open. Overcoming Insecurity: Learning to trust your loved ones:

• Difficult though it may be, one must explain these feelings of doubt to one’s partner; be sure to discuss whether or not they have contributed in some way to these feelings, if so perhaps some pattern of behavior can be altered now that it has been pointed out. Always be considerate of your loved ones, do not accuse them, simply let them know that you are having these feelings and if you are able try to pinpoint what triggers them. To share such deep feelings with one’s partner is a difficult action to take and many might feel too embarrassed or vulnerable, however to share these feelings is an excellent first step toward gaining the very trust that one has been lacking.

• A common problem with insecurity is the tendency to smother one’s partner: having to know where they are at all times and who they might be with, or even a constant need to be with them which in turn gives them little or no time to themselves. Part of trusting is not needing to "keep tabs" on the person you love, one should be able to trust their partner at all times, not just when one is around to observe their behavior. It is healthy to desire alone time, even in a new relationship people need time to reflect or concentrate on a variety of different parts of their life that make them who they are. Not only should one allow their partner to have plenty of time to be on their own, but enjoy this time to themselves as well. The constant need for company is most often a sign that one has a deeper issue that is being left unexpressed and therefore unresolved. Working toward the ability to enjoy both times together and apart allows for couples to be independent while still relying on each other.

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