Teaching communication skills to children includes teaching them about positive self talk.

Self talk includes both the positive and negative messages that make up our inner dialogue of thoughts.

It is extremely beneficial to your children to show them positive ways of thinking and how to recognize that inner message voice of self talk, as the habit of negative self talk usually begins in childhood.

Positive self talk can change attitudes from despair to hope and provide courage and optimism in place of negativity even in adverse circumstances.

Inner text messaging

Recently one young man asked me if negative self talk would be the same as sending yourself negative text messages? If you read each text message as you receive it then one has to agree that it would!

The question is why would we send ourselves a stream of negative put downs?

Interestingly enough that is exactly what negative inner self talk does.

So how about the opposite then?

How about seeing positive self talk as a series of text messages to yourself that build you up, help you to persevere and bring you courage?

You can teach your children how to listen to their thinking and how to self talk themselves into an optimistic mind set. The benefits are countless.

Recognition

Children can learn to recognize and monitor their inner thoughts.

Show your children your own thought processes by explaining them - encourage positive thinking by helping your children to recognize that their negative statements such as, I'll never be able to do it, can become, I often do succeed at things.

Tell them what you see in their actions, I really love the way you kept on trying with your homework question.

Learn to listen

In response to her own shameful behaviour, my daughter said What was I thinking?

Well, what were you thinking? I replied.

I don't know. I wasn't listening to myself at the time, she responded.

We can learn to listen to ourselves. On a deeper level this means that we learn to become aware of our own intuitive inner wisdom as well.

Teaching children to hear themselves and to recognize when they complain, whine or negate opportunities in their own minds is about teaching them about self awareness and control as well.

Attitude

A positive attitude is formed and maintained through healthy self talk - an attitude of I can and I will builds self esteem and confidence and beats I can't constantly. Our attitude to life is largely determined by the way we explain bad or sad things that happen to us.

Optimism vs Pessimism

Optimists see around the corner while pessimists seem o be backed into the corner.

People who tell themselves they are tired, unable, inferior and second rate constantly experience these very things, while people who do the opposite have positive outcomes to prove it.

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