If you are reading this, you probably fall into one of two categories; one, you’re married and you are thinking of cheating on your spouse, or two, you are wondering what the heck this article is going to be about and you just had to click and see!

Well, if you are thinking about cheating, you’ve already given up on doing all you can to keep that spark alive that got the two of you together anyway, so go find another article. This one won’t be what you are looking for.

Did I just mention the "spark"?

OK, everyone, be honest. In the beginning, you know, while you were in that dating stage, before the sharing responsibilities, before the kids, the shared pets, working different shifts, maybe different days off, before bills, BEFORE MARRIAGE, do you remember what used to happen?

I know I used to go dancing. I went on dinner dates that required dressing up (and that means a bit of makeup and a comb through your hair!)(NO McDonalds!), we walked along the beach at sunset and we went on picnics at the park and talked the day away. Didn't you and your partner do things together, weren't you on your best behavior, and didn't you enjoy each other’s company.

So WHAT HAPPENED?

LIFE HAPPENS! THINGS CHANGE!

But do they really have to? I mean, all the time? No, they don’t! And you all have to do is to make an effort and little by little either keep that spark burning or find ways to bring it back if it’s starting to flicker and fade. It doesn’t take much effort, it doesn’t even have to take much money, but there has to be a conscious thought that "I want to spend time with my partner today".

It may be taking a short walk through the neighborhood after dinner (holding hands, of course), maybe get a sitter (or sitter swap if you are on a budget) for a few hours and go see a movie (cuddling is great for this activity, hint, hint!). How about dressing up instead of wearing those jeans (or sweats) and t-shirt and going window shopping together? One, you will feel good about looking so HOT (and don’t you feel sexy when you know you are looking good?), you get to spend time with your honey, AND you get to talk about all of those things you are looking at while you are shopping. (This is a great time to drop hints about what you’d like for that birthday coming up or try and see if you can figure out what he’d really like for Father’s Day! Doesn’t he have enough ties, maybe he’d like that new fishing pole in the Sports Department this year?)

Do either of you brown bag your lunch to bring to work? When was the last time you snuck a note or a cute card in the bag to be read when lunch comes around? Just a simple "I love you! XOXOX" on a sticky note is sure to bring a smile to your partner’s face. Ever see those little "love coupon booklets" (I’ve seen them at Barnes and Noble and Wal-Mart to name a few) that you can tear out a page and leave on a pillow or hide in a suitcase for those who travel to see when they arrive at their destination? Some of them are very sweet and lovey dovey and some of them are just "HUBBA HUBBA", you start hot flashing and the steam starts coming out of your ears! Whew! YOU decide how far you want to go. The look on your partner’s face may be enough to get things into perspective, nothing like SEEING that you are turning on the love of your life to get your own juices flowing! Wow, talk about a turn on, right?

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