When was the last time that instead of turning off the lights at night and waiting to see who starts snoring first (let’s get real, ladies, some of US snore, too!) that the lights get turned down to dim, you warm up some lotion or a lightly scented oil and gave your honey a rub down? My partner just goes all boneless and limp, then when I start rubbing his feet, I’d swear he’s part cat, he is literally PURRING! Just don’t forget to WARM the oil or lotion up; cold lotion will NOT relax your partner! LOL Have I said yet that my husband has NEVER just let himself go to sleep after I give him that extra attention? Oh, no, my honey can’t wait to return the favor with the scented oil, he takes his time on MY feet (oh, my God, limp just does not describe how your body feels with a good foot rub!) and by the time he reaches my back, we are back to the HUBBA, HUBBA stage! I don’t think anyone needs me to explain any further what that means, right?

I’m going to go out on a little limb now and mention "phone sex"! I mean, come on, be honest, didn’t you have phone sex (whether it was just heavy flirting or all out petting yourself and telling your partner what you were doing) BEFORE you were married? I’m sure that most of you did (I can’t be in the minority, right?) (I am so laughing on this one, HUBBA, HUBBA, the memories . . .) So why does that have to stop because you are married and have kids? Wouldn’t you think that this is the BEST time to have phone sex? Now, be smart and think about the condition of your partner if you call him on his way TO work and get him all hot and bothered, I mean, do you really want his boss to see him that way? Well, some of you may be twisted enough to do this (I am so laughing on this one!), BUT calling him on the way HOME can be so productive, especially if you can have Grandma pick up the kids for a few hours and be wearing something sweet (hey, seductive works BETTER than sweet sometimes!) when you open the door for him to walk into the house. Can you hear me say "PLAN A DATE/TIME WITH YOUR HONEY?

Nothing I’m mentioning here is anything new! Just a little bit of planning (spontaneity is wonderful, too!), just a little conscious effort, just a little bit of "he/she makes me happy and I want to spend time with them" is all it takes. You got married, so there must have been a reason why. And doesn’t it just make sense to try to keep that happiness, the joy, the satisfaction of spending time together, the contentment of being with the right person, to keep all of these things alive in your life?

I have to admit to really, truly feeling my own heart swell whenever I see an older couple walking past me, arm in arm or holding hands, and showing their connection, their love, to each other in their faces, in the way they stand next to each other.

Now, ultimately, isn’t that what we all really crave? Acceptance for what we are, no matter what, and the love we can share with the right person?

If you are married, if you have the right person, if you really love each other, DO EVERYTHING IN YOUR POWER TO KEEP THAT LOVE ALIVE! IT IS A TWO WAY STREET AND AS LONG AS YOU BOTH ALWAYS TRY TO KEEP THE OTHER HAPPY, YOU WILL ALWAYS WIN THE GAME CALLED "LOVE"!

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