As a Personal Effectiveness Coach, I have the opportunity of working with a diverse group of people to enhance their personal effectiveness, marriages, parenting, careers, businesses, finances and spirituality; and it remains evident that in most cases, they know exactly what to do in order to conquer their obstacles. But like many of us, they often remain silent to even their innermost urge to make things happen. Smokers, for example, and others with unhealthy and detrimental habits often have consistent urges within themselves to quit these habits, but yet never initiate or continue the process. They agree to the infertility, and even dangers of these habits, but yet really do nothing about eliminating them. Despite their innermost urges, some of them still put up strong oppositions when been lovingly urged by others to quit these bad habits.

So, what is your innermost being requesting of you today? Apostle Paul indicated ages ago that the acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. What is yours? Is it smoking, eating too much (of unhealthy meals), consuming too much alcohol, procrastinating, selfishness, tardiness, laziness, inconsideration, harshness, favouritism, dishonesty, lies, pride, fraud, fornication, pornography, lust, and the like? In a world where it has become convenient to be silent to our own innermost urge to act, thus creating a shortage of present day heroes and heroines, many have become complacent even in what matters most to them. We have urges to take the necessary steps to enhance ourselves, mend a broken relationship, maintain bliss in our marriage, spend quality time with our children and families, and grow in our spirituality, but yet do nothing at all with the hope to somehow not have a broken marriage, a pregnant teenage daughter, or a soon-to-be-dad teenage son. How are you responding to that drive within you to advance your career, grow your business, or be more disciplined in your finances, eating habits, and spirituality? A good gauge of your responsiveness is reflected in the number of people that really look up to you in these areas. As William Jennings Bryan said, "Destiny is not a matter of chance; it is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for; it is a thing to be achieved".

If we listen to our innermost self, honestly, we would hear ourselves telling us how to practically enhance our personality and make a difference in the lives of those around us, and the world in general. Without a mirror, and even when we choose to ignore feedback from those around us, we can clearly identify those detrimental, growth-deterring habits and character traits that our innermost self is urging us to eliminate in order to grow and become the best that we can be. So just like we are quick to respond to the first four of Maslow's hierarchies of needs, we should be determined to respond to The FIFTH Element, which is self-actualization. While always maintaining a strong thirst for wisdom, understanding and knowledge, we should humbly seek and accept feedback from those around us, especially our spouse, children, families, friends and coworkers, and then be quick to implement those feedback that will obviously make us grow. In Maslow's words, "If you plan on being anything less than you are capable of being, you will probably be unhappy all the days of your life".

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