Sex Toys and Disability

Ever since the Jessica Rabbit first made an appearance on Sex and the City, sex toys have become an accepted part of people's lives. Over two million rabbits were sold last year, and surveys suggest that up to 75 per cent of women own at least one sex toy nowadays. And they're not just for women; a recent poll found that 36 per cent of men own toys too.

The bonus with sex toys, if you're disabled, is that they can be used to simulate parts of the body that you can't reach or feel with your hands.

Sex toys

Whether you're disabled or not, toys can be used to spice up your sex life. They can be used with a partner or alone. It's your choice as to whether you want to use one. Be aware that some partners may feel threatened by a toy, so reassure them that it's not a replacement for them, but an added bonus for both of you. Toys are an accepted part of people's sex lives today; they're even given out by the NHS in some areas.

Vibrators

Vibrators are the most popular type of sex toy. Women generally use them for clitoral stimulation, or to penetrate the vagina or anus.

If you find it difficult to stimulate yourself with a vibrator, ask your partner to help. If you're single, try lying on top of the vibrator and rubbing against it with your clitoris and pubic mound. Or put it between two cushions - on the sofa, for example - and use them to 'hold' it, while the toy penetrates you.

The most common ways for men to use a vibrator is to insert it in their anus or to hold it against their penis. For some men, this kind of stimulation is enough to bring about orgasm.

If you have a limited grip, try adapting your vibrator by adding a Velcro handle. Many vibrators come with a separate control, which can also help, as they are not so fiddly. The very latest toys can even be remote controlled, using a keyring - from up to 500 feet away!

Strap-on pouch vibrators are a great idea for people who cannot hold a vibrator at all, as they are held on with a harness. Whilst they are mostly designed for women, many men find them enjoyable as well.

Dildos

The only difference between dildos and vibrators is that dildos don't vibrate. They're designed for penetration, and like vibrators, are available in numerous shapes, sizes and materials. Silicon dildos are extra pliable, making them great for G-spot stimulation. Or try a glass dildo; you can heat it up in warm water or cool it in the fridge for extra thrills. Some dildos come with a suction cup at the base, so that you can attach them to the floor or the wall of the shower. You can also get strap- on dildos, to use with a partner.

Other Toys

Cock-rings are designed to help maintain an erection. They can be made of many materials: latex, silicon or metal. However, metal ones can be tricky to remove.

Nipple-clamps can be used to tease the nipples, on men or women, but can be fiddly if you have problems with dexterity.

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