As the father of an active ten-year-old, for one reason or another, I'm frequently in contact with other parents. During our "sideline" conversations, I'll very often hear one of them say something to the effect of, "my kids just don't listen to me".

Though I usually do my absolute best to keep my big mouth shut whenever this subject comes up, I can't help but think to myself...

Did you ever wonder *why* your kids don't listen to you?

Here, in my humble opinion, culled from many years of observation and personal experience, are the three biggest reasons why they don't:

Biggest Reason #1 - You don't listen to them.

Call it whatever you like but, the bottom line is, whatever you put out into the Universe comes back to you. Therefore, conversely, what you don't put out into the Universe doesn't come back to you, does it?

Of course not.

And with this in mind, did you ever stop to think that maybe the single biggest reason your kids don't listen to you is...

Surprise!...

Because you don't listen to them?

Here's the deal...

In my experience, I've found kids of all ages are a whole heck of a lot smarter than most folks give them credit for being and have some really neat "stuff" to say and share with you if you'd just take the time to listen to them.

And maybe...

Just maybe...

If you'd take the time to listen, *really* listen, to what your kids have to say to you and take a sincere, genuine interest in it, your kids would take the time to listen, *really* listen, to what you have to say to them and take a sincere, genuine interest in it.

Is it worth your time and effort to find out?

I certainly think it is. :-)

Biggest Reason #2 - You don't do what you say you're going to do.

In other words...

To put it bluntly...

You lie to your kids!

I don't know any better way to put it.

If I had a dollar for each and every time I've been in a toy store (and I'm in toy stores a lot, I might add :-)) and heard a parent say to their son or daughter, "no, you can't get it today, we'll come back tomorrow", I'd be far richer than I already am.

Now...

Let's be honest with one another here...

When you say to your kids something like (and this is just one example of hundreds I could use here), "we'll come back tomorrow", do you *really* intend on doing it?

Odds are, from what I've seen, you don't.

Therefore...

It's a lie...

Plain and simple!

And how long do you think it is before your kids figure this out?

Not long, I promise you.

Is it any wonder then you're kids don't listen to you?

I think not.

Speaking of and closely related to not doing what you say you're going to do is...

Biggest Reason #3 - You don't keep the commitments you make.

Let me let you in on a little "secret" here...

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