People want what they can't have. By agreeing with him about the breakup, you are no longer available to him. You are a free agent. Believe it or not, this makes you MORE attractive to him.

Now remember, this is just your first step - your opening move. But it is an effective strategy that works to help you make up after a nasty breakup.

OK, some of you are saying... But we've been broken up a good while now and I'm way beyond that point. He won't talk to me. He doesn't answer his phone. I leave messages, he doesn't call back. What do I do now?

One of the most effective opening moves in that situation, is to write a hand-written letter (not typed, not emailed - a hand-written letter) and say...

"You know what, I've been acting kind of crazy lately and I'm sorry. It's just that I miss you. I've been thinking about us a lot lately and I've come to realize...

You're exactly right.

I agree that we should be broken up and it's probably the best thing for the both of us". And that is your opening move. This is not the final curtain on your relationship (which is already over with anyway) but rather a new beginning of a better relationship using a strategy to get you back in his arms permanently.

Just like in a game of chess, it's just a first, opening move, not an end game move. It's the first step that you need to take to get back with your ex.

You see, the first thing you have to do is get on their side. You have to let them go, before they will ever want to come back. By using this opening move you have taken the first step to re-creating attraction and re-establishing a deep emotional connection.

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