When it comes to intimate physical relationships, there's a bigger thing than just achieving your own personal pleasure in bed. More than that, you should also be concerned if your partner is enjoying the same thing. Some people tend to try so hard to be a great sex partner only to come up short when it really matters.
The thing is, you have to look for the tell tale signs to know if you're providing the same level of excitement and ecstasy to your partner more that what you are deriving from your union. Oftentimes, lovers get too concerned of their own orgasms that they fail to consider their partner's needs when it comes to this matter. The rule of thumb is, if both of you were able to reach the peak without faking, you can be the best partners in bed.
When caught in a sexual act with a partner, it is best that you talk. Doing so would release the tension as well as break the ice between the two of you. You can talk about things other than sex. That's not a bad idea. If that would warm you up, then go for it. If it is pillow talk you want, do so. Just make sure that your partner is also used to dirty talks as you might scare the hell out of her if you're not careful.
Talking while having sex is not only releasing the tension. Eventually, your partner would tell you where she wants you to go. And so your quest to become her best bed partner ever have just become easier. All you have to do now is to obey her wishes and remember where her ergo zones are. So the next time you make love, you know exactly where to go and what to do.
Also, you should know how to differentiate a fake orgasm from the real thing. While some women can act so well you'd thought they are overjoyed with the act, there are others who can't do as good. If your bed partner is not as ardent as she was before, chances are you failed to hit the right notes. And so you have to do a little sacrifice and do everything all over again, slowly and passionately the next time around. Try your best until you know for sure that she had reached her peak as expected. You'd get doubly tired by doing this but then again, it's your reputation that is in line here. Bottom line, you have to be equally sensitive as to how your partner behaves in bed more than being concerned of achieving your own personal physical pleasure.