The wisdom of Kabbalah tells us that every action a person makes is only to further a personal desire. While there are many different types of desires, they are all an effort to obtain pleasure. Actions taken to avoid suffering are really just the inverse aspect of seeking pleasure.

Once a desire surfaces, our intellect starts figuring out how to fulfill it. Next, we decide whether the anticipated pleasure is worth the work required to get it. If the answer is "yes," then we act. If not, then we do nothing. Most of the time, we are completely unaware of this process. There are exceptions, though.

Imagine that you are lying in bed early on a Saturday morning. You wake up feeling slightly hungry. Your bed is nice and warm, the floor is cold, and you’re not ready to face the demands of the day. You go back to sleep. A couple of hours later, you wake up again to the smell of fresh coffee. You are now ravenous. The pleasure promised by coffee and breakfast is now great enough to cause you to jump out of bed.

Kabbalah tells us that we perform this type of calculation literally thousands of times every day. In fact, we do not move a muscle without first having a desire and performing a calculation based on that desire. Even an action as simple as scratching our nose is first motivated by a desire to stop the itch. If the itch is just a little tickle and we are absorbed in other work, we might ignore it for a while, but eventually the anticipated pleasure from stopping that tickle will win out. We scratch the itch without even thinking about it.

So our actions are all initiated by desires, but what about our thoughts? There is an erroneous belief that a person’s mind can rise above his desires, but in fact, the mind is totally driven and limited by our desires. Why do we think about something? Because we first have a desire for it!

I have a desire to eat, so my mind starts thinking about what to eat, how to get it, who I last had dinner with, the best restaurants in town, and all sorts of other things that are directly or indirectly associated with the desire for food. I go through a similar process if I have a desire for knowledge, or for respect from my peers. Each thought can be traced back to a desire that started the chain of thoughts.

But surely we have all used our minds to override a desire, haven’t we? In reality, no. Let’s take a very powerful desire – the desire for chocolate! The anticipated pleasure from the chocolate is great, but we use our "will power" to override that desire. But where did that will power originate? From a desire to be healthy, or to lose weight, or to appear strong by demonstrating our ability to resist the chocolate. So we only replaced one desire with a different, stronger desire. If the second desire had not been stronger, we would have devoured the chocolate! Once again, the desire rules.

According to the wisdom of Kabbalah, we are all born with "uncorrected" desires, meaning that our motivation is to receive pleasure for ourselves. This is obvious in many cases, but it can also be extremely subtle. People often claim that acts of charity or extreme sacrifice are examples of altruism. It is hard to admit, but if we are brutally honest, we get something out of the deal every single time. It might be as simple as a sense of satisfaction for supporting a just cause. Acting in accordance with moral or ethical tenets also provides a sense of pleasure. The ability to be "right" is another sneaky payback, even if it is associated with negative consequences ("See – I knew she would fail and I would have to pick up the pieces!") As any psychologist can attest, human motivations can be very complex. But in every case, the person achieves some real or perceived benefit from every action.

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