With any relationship or marriage, there seem to be sexual droughts and floods. Although it's normal for things to slow down a bit in the bedroom with the arrival of children and the stress of every day living, a huge decrease can cause many problems. For instance, when a woman is experiencing decreased sexual desire, her husband could feel as if he is not wanted or desired. This may cause deeper issues within the marriage. This article offers several tips for men dealing with decreased sexual desire in his wife.
Slow Things Down
One thing that really turns a woman on is foreplay. Rather than jumping straight into the good stuff, take time to explore her likes and dislikes. She will let you know through her body language what she enjoys and what she doesn't. Spend time allowing her to get into the mood and become aroused. When you go straight from looking at her to jumping her bones, it can be difficult for her to get into the mood. Foreplay can be great fun for both you and your wife so slow things down and take your time!
One thing that can really reduce your wife's sexual desire is stress. Pick up some of her workload in order to help her de-stress. For instance, rather than letting her cook dinner all the time (if she does), pick something up on your way home or offer to cook it yourself. You could also arrange for a sitter to watch the kids a few nights a week in order for you and your wife to enjoy some quiet time together. Whether you visit a theater and watch a movie, have a nice dinner or just cuddle up on the couch, the decreased stress levels will help her get into the mood.
Often times, decreased sexual activity could be the result of a medical or emotional problem and has absolutely nothing to do with your wife's feelings for you. If you become frustrated with her or angry with her, it could add to the problems. Your wife is probably already very upset that her interest is down - giving her a hard time will only upset her further. In cases like this, support her and help her find solutions. Whether the two of you visit her doctor or look for information regarding the situation, knowing that you support her will help more than you think.
When a relationship is suffering from decreased sexual activity, the tips and tricks above can really help it get back to normal. Being patient, loving and understanding will only help more!